I'm in love with the perfect guy. He makes me laugh like nobody else does, he makes me smile, he treats me good, we share secrets.....Everything. But he's taken. I don't want to mess up his wonderful relationship with my friend. But I like the feeling I have. What do I do? ESPECIALLY because he asked me to go to a movie with him....alone. Oh, and he's 2 years older than me. I don't want to lose our friendship, but my feelings for him may become a problem. What to do??????? :|
2007-01-29 13:31:52 · 26 answers · asked by B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know EXACTLY what you mean. Its hard.You first have to decide if you truly love this guy. If so, then you will wait. ( If by taken you mean married, then it would be better to try to date others, and if he doesnt stay with his wife then things may work out ) If he has a girlfriend, you should wait. If you share secrets, and you feel like your relationship is good enough to ask, then ask him hpw he feels about you. You never know unless you try.
GOOD LUCK :)
2007-01-29 13:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by iloveyoubaby92 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand you on this one. But I would tell you to be a good person and don't get in the way of your friends happiness. Trust me there is somebody out there for you... Just be patient and you will get what belongs to you soon. So my advise is hide your feeling when you are around him. I do hope that you believe in K.A.R.M.A.. Don't do anything you would not like for somebody to do to you... Be a friend because I am sure that what he sees and wants from you.. If not he would have made a choice a long time ago...
2007-01-29 13:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by Xica25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got a PROBLEM. Hun, its your friend. Unless you dont mind loosing her for sure, then I would talk to him and ask him to break up with her if he wants to be with you, and even then, its a little wrong. There is a saying in spanish that says "Everything is valid between love and war". But dont go to the movies or on any single dates till you have clear this up with him, if you dont want to loose your friendship. And another thing, not to bust your buble or anything but if he is doing this to his girl friend what guarranties you that he might not do it to you??
If your still in high school or even under high school, dont do it, there are plenty of fish in the sea (life is long), and when you break up, ur gonna regret it. Age matters a big deal and if your young is not worth it. Think about it with him, its a big deal.
2007-01-29 13:53:57 · answer #3 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do anything. leave it alone. and just stay friends. If he trys to take your friendship into the lover mode dont go. a friend like what you have is special. REMEMBER that it is normal to have feeling grow for someone when you spend time with them. But you dont have to mess up a friend ship just because you now have more feeling for that person.. There is so many single people to meet, BUT you have to get out to meet them. So maybe you should go to the movies but it shoul be with someone who you have a better chance to make into what your looking for.
2007-01-29 13:49:19 · answer #4 · answered by timtowall 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is trying to get you to go to a movie so he can cheat on his girlfriend with you. So much for "perfect", huh? What you should do is take him from the other girl. All is fair in love and war. Then be ready when he starts cheating on you. What goes around, comes around.
2007-01-29 13:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, I guess he is not the "perfect person" after all as he is taken. I wouldn't mess up someone else's relationship, put your feelings aside, be his friend and you never know, one day he may end up in your arms. Good luck.
2007-01-29 13:39:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM ALONE. It is not worth loosing a friend over it. If he wanted to be with you he would leave his current relationship and since he has not then leave him alone. It does not feel good to have that happen. He probably wants to hang with you to get something cause he knows that you are interested and can get it. Be carefull cause you will be the one hurt in the end.
2007-01-29 13:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better think about this one. If he is the prefect guy then he wouldn't be asking you out for anything if he is with someone. That dosen't sound right. If I were you I would cool this relationship and look for some body else. If Mr. prefect will do this to the girl he is with he'll do it to you.
2007-01-29 13:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by thmsnbrgll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going throught the exact same thing, except my guy is engaged! It sucks. I like him soo much and we're perfect for each other. But, I have rationalized that if he truly wants to be with me, then he would leave his fiance' and try and pursue me. If he stays with her while pursuing me, then there's something wrong in HIS head. I know I deserve someone's complete and undivided attention.
2007-01-29 13:39:13 · answer #9 · answered by Lizzie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hahaha! I have the same problem.
I guess you just have to choose being his loving and supportive friend rather than breaking your wonderful relationship once you let him know your secret love for him.
Time will be the one to decide if he's really meant for you.
2007-01-29 13:44:05 · answer #10 · answered by teddybear514 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋