...are always judging others?
why do they think we (other gays) cannot be "crazy" "queers", "affeminates", "sexually promiscous"?
Why is it they think that the only "good gays" are the ones that have a 25 years relationship with the same one, help in their town church and adopt a child from Senegal?
2007-01-29 13:12:33 · 16 answers · asked by whoknows 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
it's a commonly held belief where members of a minority think that they must perform better in society than the opposing majority in order for people to accept them and value them as individuals. you see, to them every homosexual that is a "bad" member of society is simply fueling the stereotypes and creating more discrimination. it's not just a philosophy held by gays, it was a goal of some blacks during the civil rights movement in america and other minorities who were trying to achieve equality.
2007-01-29 13:19:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Judging by your picture, I can tell you are shy. Truthfully from a straight perspective. Gays are in the minority and some try to be accepted, because they want it not longer classed at all. Just a relationship.
Honestly, more gays are accepted now more than ever. I have some really good friends that are Gay and the men, always have the best fashion sense. Queer Eye!
-But the Gay festivals with the guys wearing only a sock will not help the movement.
-cheers
ar
2007-01-29 21:23:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anthony R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what gay or lesbians you know that only think this way. I don't, nor do any of my gay/lesbian friends. I don't care if you accept me. my concern is just being left alone to live a happy life like anyone else does. I DO care about having equal rights to other citizens, and eventually being able to marry the woman that I love, with whom I have a monogamous, committed relationship. I would never think the only "good gays" are as you describe. I think "good people" are those who embrace diversity and don't pass judgment on others based on race, sexual orientation, religion or culture.
Live and let live!
2007-01-29 21:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that...
Honestly, I think you, yourself, are being a bit more ignorant than the people you are talking about. Most gays are afraid of being accepted because they're afraid that their friends will leave them, people will beat them up and they will be rejected entirely. They don't think that gays can't be crazy queers, they realize that crazy queers are the stereotype, and that's the reason that they're afraid about being accepted. (They aren't against crazy queers, they just realize that's the stereotype.)
Umm...since when is that the idea of gays with long-term relationships? I don't even know where you got that idea from!
2007-01-29 21:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone wants to be accepted and loved, weather you are gay or straight. There are good and bad in all types of societies. Someone who is in a long term relationship is more apt to be accepted, cause they are commited to each other. You dont have to be holier than thou, just a little less reckless in your love interests.
2007-01-29 21:19:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, what I can tell you is this: My best friend is gay. He does not care about any of those things you mentioned. He enjoys living with his boyfriend, and is thinking about a possible future together. I think the type of gay you mentioned is very insecure, more concerned with being accepted than actually being happy. It could just be me though.
2007-01-29 21:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by Rei 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
there seems to be this idea out there that everyone must:
1) publically announce their sexual orientation
2) gain public acceptance for it
sexual orientation is a personal thing. i don't tell people i am bi and transgendered unless i feel they have a good reason to need to know this about me..
i want people to accept me for my credability as a person, as an employee, as a friend.. not because of my sexuality or orientation..
2007-01-29 21:17:12 · answer #7 · answered by Jeff 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your naivety comes from your youthful abandon and arrogant assumption that you can get away with not being responsible for your sex life because you are 'so good-looking'.
My issue with you has nothing to do with sexuality or fidelity, but with your reasoning as to WHY you behave the way you do.
2007-01-29 21:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by Just Ask Ashley 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not worried about being accepted or not because other people dont need to know about my personal life. what i do in my private life is my business and no on elses
2007-01-29 21:42:04 · answer #9 · answered by orange_crush_05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't give a damn whether anyone accepts me or not. However, I take exception when anyone tries to tell me I am not as deserving of the same rights as everyone else.
2007-01-29 21:20:36 · answer #10 · answered by castle h 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋