My husband EXPLODES over the most stupid stuff, and it is always my fault. Even if it is something that happened at work.
2007-01-29 13:11:49 · 19 answers · asked by dingbat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ok, the best way to tell him is by having a supporter with you. make sure its not someone who will not defend you, don't hesitate. before you do anything though, sugar, you should find the strength inside yourself so you don't get scared. You seem like you are afraid of him, and I don't blame you. Men with tempers can be dangerous. so before you take any action, you should first get yourself cleared in mind, to be able to face him with a supporter and not flinch, or feel afraid of him. It is only then that you can tell your husband that you want a divorce. He seems to feed off your fear, so that is why I advise to force yourself to realize, he can't really hurt you. hope this helped.
2007-01-29 13:23:59 · answer #1 · answered by teardrop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply tell him you want a divorce and when he explodes, tell him thats the reason.
He has mental issues and possibly needs anger management. If he hasnt gotten aggressive with you yet, its only a matter of time. Trust me on this. Its a cycle and it tends to worsen over time, becoming more and more explosive and aggressive with each arguement.
There is help for him, however, if you are already finished and have hurt enough then just pack your stuff and go.
However, if you feel you would like to salvage the relationship then talk to him about how you are feeling and that he needs help and what the alternative is if he doesnt change. Tell him straight out he is going to lose you if he doesnt lose the temper.
He will either get help because he doesnt want to lose you, or he will explode because he feels you are wrong and are defying him.
If he explodes, its time to cut your losses and move on.
I am sorry for your dilemma. I have been there and its never easy.
Good luck to you and best wishes for a brighter future.
2007-01-29 13:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your husband has anger management problems, I would let him find out I want a divorce when he gets served with the papers. And I wouldn't be there when it happened!! Get what you have to have, get out while he's gone, and stay somewhere safe till he has time to calm down. Don't go back alone to get your things; take some brawny friends to help you and protect you if necessary. Don't waste another minute on a verbally abusive spouse. It's just one step from there to physical abuse.
2007-01-29 13:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his temper is to the point where you fear he could be violent with you...then don't tell him. You can arrange to leave when he is away by getting stuff you need immediately and disappearing. When you are safe some place where he cannot find you, call him from a cell, or just have him served with divorce papers...or you can leave a note...he will get the message
2007-01-29 13:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IIf your sure that's what u want then plan it all out and then do it. Move out first, get your own place to go to then get all your stuff ready to go, maybe move out while he is at work. Then tell him over the phone or with somebody else present if you think he will really go off.
I'm not condoning divorce just telling what u should do if you are determined about doing this.
2007-01-29 13:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him, just leave for awhile if you can. Tell him from somewhere else. Chances are he'll flip out for awhile and then calm down. Once he calms down he'll try to wooo you back. Give it some time...if you're willing, go to counseling with him. Don't go back to him until (IF you do) you're sure that there's been a change of heart. Believe it or not, people CAN change in this situation, I've seen it. Most of the time they won't change however.
2007-01-29 13:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just wrote my husband an email and basically told him the same thing. He yelled at me because I tie the bread bag too tight.
2007-01-29 13:18:41 · answer #7 · answered by sheila, TTC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried marriage consuling? See if you can get him into an anger management program. If that fails, divorce him. Sorry if this doens't help! I wish you the best.
2007-01-29 13:16:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im with Tonya, leave when he's a work so when he gets home, he gets home to NOTHING! hahaha.
Sad, i know. But safer for you if your in another state.
My mother did it to my father. She packed up herself and us 3kids and just left one day - - the happiest day of our lives. He was much the same as you are describing, only he got worse...
Good Luck.
2007-01-29 13:21:08 · answer #9 · answered by Moz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have an attorney the size of Arnold Schwarzzeneger serve him with divorce papers. And the immedialtely kick him in the groin and say, "you've been served"...............
2007-01-29 13:17:44 · answer #10 · answered by johngolfs2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋