I have a friend that I met through my ex girlfriend. We became cool and we used to be close. I felt that it came to the point that all she wanted to do was use me. I always took her to get food and that was it, no hanging out or anything. Was I wrong to tell her to lose my number or do you think I was right? Shes twisted in a lot of ways.
2007-01-29 12:30:17 · 20 answers · asked by DJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
when she started to use u i think u should have told her that u know what she's doing, so after that u forgive and u don't lose a friend.
2007-01-29 12:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by †stealth-kid† 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is your side of the story but how did she benefit you. Taking her out to eat was a normal thing to do on a date and perhaps she is waiting on your next move. If you make no attempt to hang out or do other pleasurable things with her, as you call the shots in dating and it is up to her to accept. I think you may be at fault telling her to lose your number and I do have the full details or her side of the story. So if she is twisted in a lots of ways and you are not comfortable with her then do not offend her but exhaust all communications with her.
2007-01-29 20:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends come and go. Some come into our life for a reason (for one purpose & then you never see them again). Some come into our life for a season (a relatively short-term phase in life). And some come into our life to last a lifetime.
The friendship you shared with this girl was for a season. She needed to know that she was taking advantage. And I'm hoping she learned from this experience. You said she is "twisted" - - - and sometimes people with mental disorders appear very selfish. It's okay to let the friendship go. If she calls to apologize or tries to get back in touch with you, let your conscience be your guide, but let her know how you felt used.
2007-01-29 20:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should forgive her, but also forget her. If she's using you she's not a real friend. Do something like a "Do You Know Me" quiz and if she knows nothing at all about you, tell her that your not sure you guys are good friends, and if she does know a lot of stuff about you. then tell her that you feel like you're being used and you don't like it. Hope this helps.
2007-01-29 20:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you made the right decision, then go with your gut feeling. If you think she was twisted & used you, then you have your reasons for not wanting to be be her friend anymore.
Don't worry about it. As long as you know that the friendship wasn't good, then you did the right thing.
2007-01-29 21:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forget. No need to forgive or not forgive. We meet many people in our lives, users, losers, lovers, friends. This was just one along the way. You don't need a user. Let her find someone else to use; you find someone to like who likes you back.
2007-01-29 20:37:17 · answer #6 · answered by janeinthecity_1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's using you then definitely forget her and move on. You don't have any reason to feel guilty or like you did something wrong by kicking her to the curb. Friends don't use other friends just to get something from them.
2007-01-29 20:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by saylavie2u2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said this person was tristed. I suggest you find other people to hang around that are not twisted, but normal in their thinking. Evil company corrupts good manners.
2007-01-31 20:31:44 · answer #8 · answered by NC_Pianist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. Nobody likes to be used. You aren't good enough to hang out with, but good enough to be her taxi. If she wants to be friends again, you could give her another chance, but keep your eyes open.
2007-01-29 20:37:27 · answer #9 · answered by Pom♥Mom Spay and Neuter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move along. If you think this person was using you forgive then forget.
2007-01-29 20:35:28 · answer #10 · answered by diamoniquejazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋