Okay here is the deal. My ex has visitation rights with my kids every other weekend. Everything is good and fine. However, I just found out that the kids do not spend a big chunk of their weekends and some nights with their father. They go over to their father's in laws' homes. I do not know these people. Don't even know their names. All I know is one of them has a dog named Muffy. I'm upset about this and want to know if an attorney is needed to give the dad a wake up call that when the kids come over for their visitation, they are to be visiting their father. Also as a note, I wouldn't mind one bit if their father was with them, but they are not...he stays at home all weekend while the kids go somewhere else. Thanks in advance
2007-01-29 12:26:49 · 4 answers · asked by ♪♫♪justpassingby♪♫♪ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I understand fully...believe me. However isn't it neglect if he is neglecting the kids by pushing them off onto someone else? I mean, what is the point of visitation if they aren't visiting him?
2007-01-29 12:41:56 · update #1
I have to agree with you on this one. Have you ever asked the kids who idea it is that they go and stay over there? Maybe they have more fun there than with their dad. (how sad would that be). I would think that it would hurt them that he would let them go somewhere else. Kids are not stupid and they have to wonder why he doesn't think its important to spend that time with them. At the same time how nice are these people to have his children over to stay knowing that it is his visit? Maybe they think the kids are better off with them too?????
2007-01-29 12:49:47 · answer #1 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Something smells funny here. I would normally say it's just your side of the story and you must be leaving something out. However, you just sound too intelligent to be leaving out important info. I honestly believe that there is something going on at home that he is shielding them from. My guess is it's drugs. Oh I bet that will make you really happy to hear. Yep, everything adds up! Drugs, Meth lab! Dangerous around children, but too valuable for dealers to stop. Do you have a cop Friend that you can run this by? Don't turn him in without proof!
2007-01-29 20:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel the same way you do.
My ex wanted my children to go and visit for the weekend, but was working and his gf ( of only 3 months at the time) would look after them while he was at work.
I said NO..........the visitation is for you not your gf...........Thank fully he understood.
But if he didnt, I would have definatley gone back to see my lawyer........There is no point in the children going over there if he's not going to spend time with them!!
2007-01-29 21:20:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand. Someone else is doing the work.
This being said, though, it's his time. He could be taking them to some crack whore's house...I mean, express your concern to him, but an attorney will tell you you can't do anything unless there is abuse or neglect.
Good luck.
2007-01-29 20:37:13 · answer #4 · answered by steelypen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋