Should I find out the sex of my baby?

Question

I'm going for my 20 week ultrasound this week and I can't decide if I want to find out the sex of my baby? Any thoughts/opinions.

This is my first baby and although at first I was going to leave it as a surprise, I don't think I can wait any longer.....

However, I really REALLY want to have a boy, but I have this deep down feeling that I want a boy so much I will end up having a girl! Has anyone ever experienced this?

Would appreciate a broad range of ideas/thoughts/opinions!

Thanks everyone :o)

Answer 1

Everyone is different although I found out with all my kids before what they was going to be! Although I know you say you want a boy hun don't let that up set you because I use to be the same. Then when I lost what I wanted so bad I had changed my mind! Now ALL I say is all I want is one healthy baby! I am 35 weeks again and I STILL had to find out what he was going to be because I want to make sure he has the best in the world! Although like I said I did NOT care what he was because ALL I want is a healthy baby! CONGRATS! and BEST WISHES

Answer 2

Well other then just putting your mind at ease and not having to stress as to what sex the baby is you will also be able to start to shop for the right sex clothing and toys and not have to get everything unisex. Also I wanted a boy the first time and I got my son just as I wanted and this time I am 15 weeks along now and I really really want a girl and I have the same feelings you are having that i want a girl so badly I am going to end up with another little boy. No matter the sex though i can garentee you are going to love that child soooo much that it will actually hurt at times. Just try to have fun while pregnant and don't stress the sex is already deturmined and there really isn't anything you can do about it now. Congrats on the new one comeing though.

Answer 3

I think it's better if you find out then you would know what kind of stuff to get! I don't know if I could go through the whole 9 mnths not knowing! But then again, some people like the surprise. It's up to you. You could not know and just get unisex stuff, or you could find out and go all out when you go shopping!!! My bf and I wanted a boy as well (him more than me). And everyone said i "looked like" I was having a boy. There were all these boy/girl superstitions that my family and friends believe in and apparently I was leaning more towards the boy side. But the ultrasound gave us different! And that was a surprise in itself! But now we don't even care. We're glad either way because as unhealthy and unnutritional as I have been these almost past 9 mnths, fortunately our baby is doing good and everything seems to be fine. I'd say find out because you could get it off ur chest!

Answer 4

I found out with all my babies, but I have no patience really... lol.. :) three girls, three boys.... I can remember when I was pregnant with my eldest.... I was a very "cocky" twenty-two year old.. I say this because the doctor asked if I wanted to know, and I looked at him and said "she's a girl" he rolled his eyes and siad.. oo-kkaay.... I told him that all I wanted was a baby girl, so if God was going to "stick some poor child with me as the mommy, he will at least give me what I want" lol... it is funny, I never thought I would have anything else..until after the dr. asked me.... and then those two weeks before the ultrasound felt like months! worse than waiting those last weeks before birth....he left me wondering, scared inside that because I wanted a girl so much I would have a boy, and would I have any issues loving him.. oh no.. what about all those dresses I just bought? I believe was the second thought.. or that everything was in pastels and mostly pinks.... lol... it's funny, because when she (and subsequently each of my other little gems) were born... I never heard the dr tell me which sex... I mean, I know he said healthy baby...?and the sex?.. but I had eyes, ears for only that little jewel waiting to hear that first cry, watch the first breath... and all that fear of what would happen if I had one that was not the "sex" I wanted? seeing that baby, hearing your baby... you won't care.. whether he or she is a surprise as you had resolved to keep it? or if you give in and tell the dr. go on... tell me....lol... after my eldest I wanted to know... but thanfully, was not as impatiently waiting....
shopping for the items is always an excuse I used (it was not my own reason...lol.. just sounded better than.. cause I want a girl or boy) but, I bought everything in neutral colors anyway, just in case... since even when a dr tells you what you are having he or she can be wrong..... I have a little cousin (little I mean seven) who is a he.. even though each and every ultrasound? proclaimed they were having a girl... and wow, I think that is the only birth in a long time I knew was a surprise (at least one with ultrasounds)
I guess what I am saying (in a very long winded way, sorry) is... find out if you want.. expect to not care when the birth happens... expect to be surprised regardless! and always buy neutral colors?! ;)

and cockiness? I named what each of mine would be.. and for the same reason as the first...lol.. except the last.. I figured boy... cause "HE" knows I prefer evens as opposed to odds? lol... no, it is true.. funny, but true... ;) lol

anyway... regardless of girl, boy... knowing or not? may health happiness and love come to your blessed baby in spades!! good luck god bless

Answer 5

The reason why I think you should know the sex of the baby is that it helps you prepare better for your first baby. Some mothers decide to learn the sex of their baby so people know what type of clothing to buy--they will definately ask you. Also, for decorating purposes, it might be nice so you are prepared ahead of time. A lot of people like to have the nursery painted, so the colors might make a difference depending on the gender. I have heard of a lot of people who-- after learning the gender of their first baby-- will wait on any subsequent children. Now that they know the ropes and are more mentally prepared, the other stuff will fall into place better.

I am pregnant with my first and will learn the sex of my baby. I think that it will help me bond more with the baby--knowing that much more about what is really going on in there! And I don't want to have a big hassle decorating and shopping for gender appropriate clothing after the birth, so I'd like to be prepared.

Do what you think is best! It is your (and the father's) decision.

Answer 6

well it is up to u really. Not knowing leaves u with the suspence and excitement of wondering. Knowing lets u plan a lil more. I personally chose to know the sex of my children. I was able to buy clothes, ect. If I didnt know what the sex was of my kids I would be freeking i didnt have everything i needed and i didnt want to buy all yellow to go for either a boy or girl. i personally liked being able to buy dresses for my daughter and boy like clothing for my sons. I am 21 weeks now and am having a boy. I am now buying what i need for a boy now that the girl is ruled out. I know the thought of surprise is kool but for me i just feel more organized and put together when i know what i am expecting. knowing what i was having did not take the surprise away for me at all.

Answer 7

Haha you sound like me! I am prego with my second, and I can't decide if I want to find out either... I wanted to let it be a surprise, but after I started looking at cloths and stuff, I wanted to buy a bunch of dresses, but if its a boy I would be really disappointed I couldn't use them.... but then on the other hand if I do find out, and they tell me its a girl, I am scared it will turn out to really be a boy!!! (I really want a girl, I already have a son and a stepson) So sorry I can't be of much help lol I'm having the same problem!

Answer 8

I'm also pregnant with my first. I thought I wanted to wait to find out the gender but husband really wanted to find out. I am really happy that we found out for 2 reasons:
1. My husband really wanted a boy. I knew he was already excited about the prospect of a boy. I felt finding out early (either way) would give him time to start visualizing our baby-to-be and also get excited about having a daughter if that was what the baby turned out to be.
2. Ironically, I feel I have gotten even more benefit from knowing the genger than my husband. I started feeling the baby move the week we found out the gender -- and somehow knowing the gender made me feel like I was bonding with that precious being inside me even more closely. I love knowing that it's a boy! :)

Congratulations to you no matter what you decide to do!

Answer 9

I didn't find out with my first. I was so sure it was a boy. I had a girl and ended up arguing with the doctor as soon as he said " Congratulations, you have a girl!" I sat up in the stirrups and replied "What do you mean its a girl?!?!? Check again! "
I decided to find out with the other two.
If you find out the sex before the baby is born, its still a surprise and you get the chance to prepare the nursery, buy the right clothes and toys and pick a name.

Answer 10

It truly is up to you. My husband convinced me to find out because, Mr. Logical said that no matter what, it is a surprise. It's just when you find out that changes.

If you decide to find out, you might do something fun like have the sonographer put the gender on a card (give them a card/pen or pink bootie or blue bootie or something here-be creative) and then find out later together or with family. I've heard it's sort of uncomfortable finding out in front of a stranger?

That's what worked for us. Either way, good luck! I was so worried about the labor and mine was a piece of cake. The epidural helped though! Enjoy-I counted the days until I gave birth and now miss being pregnant!