Why is it that people no longer cares about things like..?

Question

premarital sex, not being a virgin, having multiple sexual partners and so forth?? Is it that the people don't care about these things anymore and why? Or is it that the society and the media are giving people the wrong messages that these things are okay. Or is it the culture? Where do people get that message from? What happen to good morals, values and traditions?

Is that too high a standard or what?

But I think in the older times, people care about these things more than the current times. So, what causes the change?? Society becomes more modernized and liberated and so people care about these things less and don't see them as anything as important as before?

Answer 1

There are many factors involved in answering your Q. The church has lost it's suffocating grip on society, technology and education concerning sexuality is vastly improved, we have grown culturally, not regressed as you imply, priorities have changed. And yes, there are those who don't use the improvements to improve their lives, and those who would live in the relative dark ages of morality imposed by previous generations. I had premarital sex, I've had multiple sex partners,I have good morals, high values, and would challenge you to find a better citizen than I. I'm not religious and wasn't raised with religious beliefs. I'm sure there are plenty of people just like me.The two societal systems you speak of aren't connected. But for years religion tried to connect them to control the believers.

M

Answer 2

We are in a time of, "If it makes you feel good, go for it". You can see it as early as kindergarten. Johnny does what ever he wants in the class room, the teacher reacts, and here comes mommy and daddy demanding something be done to the teacher. So many folks don't want to be accountable for their own actions. Its always "OK" or someone else's fault. So all of this (plus the constant message on TV, Movies, Papers) creates the false impression that its OK, every body is doing it. So where does this cycle end? Or does it end? I've been saying for quite some time that it appears this is the price a society pays for Individual Freedoms taken to the extreme by the small minority. Its the only thing you hear due to the fact that the majority keeps quiet. Eventually it has to come crashing down. It always has in the past. I hope we as a Nation can get it together and rise above it, but I doubt we can.

Answer 3

I believe in the high standards, but am glad that I'm not a virgin. i am 38 and have never been married. Lets get real. On the other hand, it's not as if I've had all the sex in the world either. My relationships were short-lived and I wouldn't get back with either man for a booty call nor anything else. I want a meaningful relationship---preferably a marriage like my parents' 39-year one.
I do believe in having childern within wedlock, getting an education prior to the childrearing, not shacking up, especially in the parents' house, being covered as oppose to walking out half naked and using no profanity are among my standards. I discuss with Gen X and baby boomers how things have deterioated in this world.

Answer 4

I think the reason is parents are no longer taking the responsibility of installing personal morals into their kids.
My mother taught me about premarital sex, and the impact it can have on a young person. The media does sell sex and anything that can make them big bucks. Parents now days are letting the media, schools and socitety tell their kids what they should be doing and how they should act. Thus producing overweight children, drop-outs, lazyness and teen pregnancy.
When parents take back the reigns and start becoming an idol or hero for their kids then you'll see a drop in these issues.

Answer 5

ALL of the above are contributing reasons and IMHO it began with the 60's and spiraled downward in the 70's and 80's....now we have a laissez-faire outlook societally and almost anything seems to be accepted. Without 'society' embracing an overall right and wrong paradigm, too many parents then do not teach and live what they themselves learned to be the 'right' way and take the easy way out....Schools have been stripped of their original roles....God has been removed from so many venues of every day life....economics has caused two parent working households and the family unit has gradually disintegrated [divorce also being a causative factor]

We have shriveled into a 'me' first society who worships only fame, fortune and things and FEELING good - yet few now know that the road to feeling good is not material.

Answer 6

Could be that people don't need to get that message from anybody--it may be the natural way of things. Most of our sexual hang ups come from our country's connection to Victorian England in its early days, making it appear to later American generations that this was the way things were supposed to be.

But there have been several major cultures where the ideas of chastity, monogamy, and whatnot were not nearly as important as they seem to be for some people today (Rome, Greece, India, Japan, China are a few that spring to mind...) These folks had civilizations that successfully spanned (and for some, continue to span) dozens of centuries, and many of them seemed to tick along just fine despite the fact that they were screwing each other like rabbits.

In the end, good morals, values, and traditions are in the eye of the beholder. What you find important, someone else may not. And who's to say which way is the right way? (Aside from me, of course...)

Answer 7

Avoiding pre-marital sex made better sense in the times before birth control.

Avoiding pre-marital sex made better sense when the average human lifespan was about 35, and people got married at 14.

Today, enlightened, educated people who genuinely care about our world either post-pone having children, or decide to not have children at all, so that they don't add to the Six and One Half BILLION people who are already clogging up and destroying this planet.


Today, in America and similar "first world" countries, the average life span is 70, or higher. People are also getting married later in life, it's not unusual to see first-time marraiges at 30 or older.

I couldn't ask someone to wait that long, or to swear off one of life's natural pleasures just because they are too conciencious to not over-populate - could you?

Now, the REAL question is this:

Why, when it is so socially acceptable to be single and sexually promiscuous, why, why why why..... do some people make promises of monogomy and enter into a relationship with a mate/lover/girlfriend/boyfriend/spouse/significant other -

and then cheat?

Why wouldn't someone just stay single if they want to play the field? Why make promises and then drag someone else through that hell?

Answer 8

What is so wrong about enjoying yourself sexually? I believe it is okay to experiment a little before settling down. If I had settled for my first I would have been unhappy for the rest of my life. I am now with someone that I love and that is able to satisfy me. What is so wrong about that? However, I don't think anything anyone says about this subject, rational or not, is going to persuade you because you are obviously persuaded by religion. Just know that having fun doesn't mean a lack of morals or values. Just because everyone's morals and values don't meet your standards, it doesn't make them any less important!

Answer 9

It seems that society is slipping away.

You know the song. "iwas born too late into a world that doesn't care".

I have made my mind up not to join the sheep, and be different, and stick to my values. I wll try to learn and be open minded, but I dont take drugs, (dont think I need 'em, I'm nuts enough.). I dont smoke, and dont hit people over the head with a Bible.

I think it every one treated one another with respect, the world would be a mkuch better place.

Answer 10

Who says its the media... maybe these things are okay. Do you realize that humans are the only mammal that stay or attempt to stay trully monogamous throughout their lives. Even many of the birds that mate for life will actually breed with other males, but will raise the young with their mate.

The bible says premarital sex, multiple sex partners, etc are wrong, who determined that the bible was "right"?