hi everyone,this is my first time on yahoo answers and question.i'm on my sisters account because at this moment i don't have one of my own.Any ways, i think i am gay.is it normal? how do i know?
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will i go to hell? in my church they say homosexuality is wrong and they keep on telling the story of sodom and gommarah.they don't know i'm gay.
2007-01-29 12:12:12 · 21 answers · asked by ,,,,,,, 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You will know,
Being straight or gay is normal, so what ever you are just be happy...♥
2007-01-29 12:20:07 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well....in case you're telling the truth about being on your sister's account.....
You're too young to try to make a huge decision like that. I know you're going to hate hearing that, but your emotions and hormones and body are all at war right now, working to mature. It's amazing to me that so many people make it through puberty!
Take some time. You may be attracted to boys. You may be attracted to girls. You may be attracted to both. However, you don't have to make that decision yet.
Some churches are totally against homosexuality. Some are not. This might be a problem between you and your family (another reason to take the wait and see approach) - that's always hard. There are probably counselors at your school who can help you address the situation with your parents when the right time comes to talk about your choices.
If you live life right, try to not hurt others, and be as good of a person as you can be, there should not be an issue with the Heaven or Hell problem. Instead of letting them TELL you about Sodom and Gomorrah, READ the story. You might be surprised on what it's really about!
Just remember, don't rush into anything, take your time.
2007-01-29 12:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by E_Tard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will you go to hell? That depends on your belief. If you believe that Jesus saves unconditionally, then no, of course not. Remember, it is not by works but by faith that you are saved.
It isn't listed as one of the ten commandments or as a detestable sin. Will you go to hell for having a lying problem? No, I don't think so. Not if your heart is in the right place.
Pray about this. It's really between you and God. Personally, I do not have a problem with gays and bisexuals, and I don't see how it could be a sin, but that's just my personal view.
Oh, and on Sodom: if you think about it, the main sin probably wasn't that they were gay. They sent the women out and they raped and killed them, didn't they? During the time period and even today, it was a psychological move on the men's part to intimidate the newcomers from the town. Think about it logically, if someone is sexually interested in someone else, why would they take a huge hoard of people with them? For public humiliation, that's why. Think about prison rape. The Israelites had a huge focus on hospitality. The most likely interpretation of the sin in this passage, to me at least, is the inhospitality of the other men versus what Lot did.
Will you go to hell? I seriously doubt that, if you truly are saved and love Jesus. Don't consolidate your opinion of your sexuality, however, as you are still young and sometimes can draw the wrong conclusion, in any way shape or form. You might just be feeling a tight kinship bond with someone of your own gender, and it is natural for girls to tell when one another are attractive.
Think about this for a moment: would Jesus create you with feelings for another girl if this was inappropriate? That's for you to decide.
Whatever you decide, just remember that Jesus loves you, regardless of any sins or impurities. So even if homosexuality is a sin, it's not one that will send you to hell automatically. Good luck, and I'll be praying for you!
2007-01-29 14:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by Marie K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're on your sister's account, these answers will probably be sent to her email and she'll see that you wrote this question. So if that's going to be a problem, you might want to find a way to take care of that.
If you're not sure if you're gay or not, there's really nothing to do besides give it time. You'll know, for sure, soon enough. As for being "normal", it depends on how you define normal. It's a minority. So if non-christians in this country, or ethnic minorities, or people with red hair are "abnormal", then yeah, so is being gay. If not, then no. The APA (the national organization for psychologists) is fully supportive of gay and lesbian people as natural and normal.
Regarding religion: everyone's got their own religious views. That's something you'll have to figure out for yourself.
2007-01-30 13:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think you are you are. 12 is young but if you have an attraction you can't shake maybe you are. But you won't know until you experience being with another girl. and I don't advise that at such a young age. Plus, don't think you're going to hell because you aren't. God loves and forgives its man who has the problem with forgiveness. God created us all and he made us who we are.and as long as you believe in him and grow knowing that he had a hand in creating you, you should embrass your difference because you aren't the only one who feels this way. Plus, you know you're gay, you said "they don't know I'm gay". Thats a statement, not a question. Just look out for yourself and what you want cause you have to live your life. Love is whatever makes you happy
2007-01-29 13:09:11 · answer #5 · answered by b_mb3100 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, pretty much no religion that has branched off of Islam or Judaism accepts homosexuality.
Well, if you like girls and are sexually attracted to girls, but not boys, then you are gay. It just take some time to really figure out if you are, or just becoming curious. I originally tried to tell myself I was just curious, but I now know I'm gay. Some people do just go through a phase, but have an open mind so you don't hate yourself and torture yourself over it. ^_^
Also, if you are Christian, don't you believe that Jesus loves everyone? It doesn't say he doesn't love gays...think about that. (I know too much about Jesus for a Jew. XD)
2007-01-29 13:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This must be really scary for you. It is a fearful thing to question your sexuality at such a young age. With the culture starting to except the gay life style, it is normal for people to question their own sexuality. I can not really comment on whether you are gay or not, but it is normal to wonder that. My sister came out to our family when she was 16 and is now 21. My mom was a lesbian, and was thrilled to have a gay daughter, but it has not been an easy life for my sister (who I love very much). I imagine it will be a lot harder for you since you are growing up in a church setting. My sister and I never went to church when we were young.
You should really try to find an adult you can talk to that you think could help you. I would try to avoid anyone from your church unless you feel you can trust them and stay away from lesbians my sister talked to a couple when she was young and they were a little over whelming. They were more interested in forcing her in to "coming out" to everyone in the world, than they were about helping her. Try to find someone at your school, like a councilor you can talk to.
DO NOT USE THE INTERNET TO FIND HELP. It is dangerous for a 12 yr girl to ask for help from people on-line. Be careful.
As for Hell. Please keep this in mind, no one goes to hell for only being gay. I am sure you have heard the verse, "we have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God" and " the wages of sin is death (hell)", "but God so loved the world that he gave his only son, that anyone who believes in him should not die but have eternal life". All people go to hell if they sin, even once, and we have all done that, but God loves us and wants us to live with him.
So if you love Jesus, and try your hardest to follow what he told all of us to do; Than, you will never have to fear hell or death, because you will have God's promise that he will keep you safe.
2007-01-29 13:00:04 · answer #7 · answered by gavinski16 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay i personally don't believe that there is a hell, i just think parents say that kind of stuff you scare kids and apparently it's working for you.
you're 12, you've just started liking guys and stuff. did you know almost all girls and guys question their sexuality in their teen stage so...12-18 years.
this doesn't necessarily mean that you're not. Talk to your parents and find support. There's nothing to be ashamed of if you're gay like there's nothing to be ashamed of if you're straight or tall or short or black or white.
Talk to someone you can trust.
2007-01-29 12:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by wreckless_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur only 12 alot of 12year olds are goign though thing like this. Even though they wont admit it. Your body is just going though changes.. but let me tell u this you wont go to hell. only evil people go to hell and being gay is not evil people are born that way.... unless u r a good person vares fpr peole and do the right things God will allow u into hevean
2007-01-29 12:20:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax you are not yet fully grown yet, you are currently going through puberty, this is causing you to feel certain emotions which may create confusion on your part.
if you are feeling sexual thoughts towards a friend or someone close to you, it may only be because they are safe bet.
you will not go to hell god loves you a lot.
trust yourself and things will work out okay.
as you get older you will get a better idea of your sexuality and who you are attracted to. the best thing to do is find someone you trust to talk with.
:) chow
2007-01-29 13:09:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay this isn't easy for me but it might help you im almost 15 and when i was in girlscouts we had a lockin and i started to like girls and as wierd as this sounds i actually made out with two of them i thought from the age 11 to the age 13 i thought i was gay then this really really hot guy asked me out and i was like uhhhh i guess so so we started dateing and going places and i fell "in love" with him and i only thought i liked girls because i didn't have anyguys when i kissed him it just felt right like i wasn't hiding anything and this was how it was meant for me to be and i am still with him to this day im not saying you are not gay but give it awhile and try both b4 you make your decision
GOD BLESS YOU YOU ARE NOT GOING TO HELL
2007-01-29 13:31:40 · answer #11 · answered by skater_gurl_rawks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋