I was teasing my husband lots of times these past few weeks, and he said "If you keep thinking I am cheating on you I will cheat on you". but I don't think he is serious. Do you think he wants to? What should I do?
2007-01-29 12:10:45 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, STOP teasing him about it!
Even if he is looking for and excuse to cheat, you will NOT be the cause. It will be totally his decision and choice even though he may try to blame you.
2007-01-29 12:19:31 · answer #1 · answered by Pom♥Mom Spay and Neuter 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
He might not think that you are teasing. Sometimes (and I'm not saying that you are doing this at all) people accuse the other of cheating when they are actually the one doing the cheating. If he is thinking like this, he may be suspicious of you. However, I don't think that that is the deal - I think that he doesn't want to talk about cheating in general.
2007-02-05 10:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
One of the things my husband told me when I found out he was cheating on me with some whore named Loretta from TN, was that I had accused him of cheating so he figured he might as well do it. However, he was doing the cheating for 2 years before I accused him of doing it. Honestly, your husband may be thinking about it and will use your accusations - kidding or not - as an excuse to do it so he can blame you for his actions when he gets caught. Why are you teasing him about cheating on you? Do you have some reason, possibly deep down, to think that he may be cheating on you? I'd keep an eye on him to see if he shows some of the signs that he's actually cheating or thinking about it. My husband lost a lot of weight and started paying a lot of attention to how he looked. He also would call me to tell me he was leaving work and then show up 2 or 3 hrs. later when it's only a 20 min. drive from his office to home. He also spent every weekend "working", but come to find out he was actually carrying on his affair with this whore over the phone and online. As I said, keep your eyes and ears opened to things that don't make sense or variations from his normal routine.
2007-01-29 12:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by saylavie2u2 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A lot of men use that for an excuse to cheat...You cannot drive someone to do anything they don't want to do. SO if he cheats it wont be because of your mistrust. It will be because he was looking for an excuse to cheat...But at the same time, that can be very annoying. How would you feel if he constantly accused you of cheating....I personally would get tired of it and eventually leave. If your not gonna trust him or believe him when he says hes not cheating then whats the point in being together???
2007-01-29 12:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by Tabatha 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
ive had that said to me before. i think it can mean two things. it just depends on the person. maybe he has absolutly no intentions of ever cheating on you, and was just thinking that it would shut you up if he said something so drastic. but then again, maybe he seen it as an oportunity to tell you that there is a chance he might. then when it does happen, he can say "i warned you". what kind of person is he?if you really trust him, stop tauntuing him.but tell him that what he said really hurt you, and also let him know that if he were to cheat, you won't stick around, regardless of if he had told you already.
2007-02-06 06:43:15 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs_W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you seriously think he is cheating on you? If you do, you should stop asking and find out for sure. If you don't you should get some self-esteem. No one wants to be asked over and over if they are cheating. You can't really drive someone to cheat, but worrying about whether or not you're an adequate partner for your husband will not make him think you're hot either.
2007-01-29 12:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by babyred 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Stupid insinuations will get you nowhere fast and if you think he's going to just tolerate stupid behavior then you deserve what you get. Have you ever heard the expression you reap what you sew? You need to do some serious a_s kissing or you will lose this man, we men do not take things lightly even though it seems as we ignore it. How would you feel if he said I know you're screwing the next door neighbor when I'm not at home! If it was said enough maybe you just might screw him just to get back. Thus the equation reap what you sew! Beg for forgiveness and tell him you're sorry you said such things.
2007-01-29 12:37:52 · answer #7 · answered by beamer 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well if you keep teasing him over and over everyday. He just might. Or maybe I hope he is just teasing you back. But I wouldn't let it go too far. though. If he's taking care of it good at home I promise he isn't cheating, not unless he's always tired and always wants to get into arguing when it's bedtime.
2007-01-29 12:23:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Really that issue is a very touchy one! I would never tell my wife anything like that! It will only start to put more doubt into the minds of the both of you! I wouldn't play with it! Because in some men they have the mentality that if I'm being accused I might as well do it! Please don't play with that conversation that way because its a possibility that it can ruin your marriage based on trust issues!
2007-02-06 10:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. I used to constantly accuse my husband of cheating on me... and he did. You know what - it was his fault he cheated - that choice was his and his alone; but if a man thinks you don't trust him anyway, he may figure What's the point?
And he may not be planning to cheat on you, but if thinks you don't trust him anyway, he may just go for it if the situation ever comes us.
It still won't be your fault... but you are probably damaging your marriage by accusing him.
I say, stop teasing him about this - it seems like a sore subject for both of you that may lead to trouble. And if you're serious about thinking he may be cheating on you, confront him directly - don't make it seem like your joking.
2007-02-05 14:41:08 · answer #10 · answered by erismom 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋