how do i deal with a brown nose b-tch at work?

Question

"sue" is the perfect employee when the boss is around.first 1 to volunteer for extra work(for the boss),stays late to help the boss,always agrees with the boss,laughs at everything she says.sue even helps her outside of work(house hunting,man hunting)anything the boss wants she does basicly kisses her a---.now when the boss leaves its a different story.sue will spend all her time on the phone,will make me deal with any difficult clients,and will never do any "favors" for me.now the worst part is she will "throw me in" to the boss.for example some papers got lost and our boss asked her if she had seen them.sue told her i was the one to have them last.true or not(i dont think i had them)why would she throw me in like that?she does this all the time.when i asked her why she did this she looked at me snotty and said "well you did!" and walked off.i'm a single mom so i can't leave right now and talking to my boss will not work as they have become "great freinds"

Answer 1

details...

you gotta write down every single thing that you do for the day (daily report e.g sue stressed urgancy for an invoice from ABC co. , mr X (boss) requires yesterdays minutes to be faxed to the operations department etc...)

and get it initialed and signed everyday

make it formal

therefore, you'll safeguard your job and future carreer with (any) the company plus a record of the dailys'

in the end, it's a win-win situation...

get the big boss for approval and miss "sue" will start to watch her a** cos you're untouchable...

just do your job to show deligency and commitment and higher management will observe and acknowledge regardless if someone is their best friend or not...

good luck (^_^) and all the best

Answer 2

This is hard to answer since I don't know how big the company is but try and get into a different department away from "sue" and your boss, if possible. Then you won't have to worry about her influence.
Stand up for yourself not just to her but in front of your boss. There are always to get your point across while still being professional.
It's always better if someone else sees the same things that you do and can back you up.
Start sending out resumes while you are still at this job just in case. You might find a better paying job or just be a lot happier. If you don't have time being a single mom, go to a staffing agency. They will work to find you a job while you are at work. And you can request they find you a permanent position rather then a temp job. Good luck!

Answer 3

Option One:
The boss knows how realible Sue is to suit her unmet needs in and out of the office, you could take a stance, take a chance and hold a discussion with the three of you in the boss's office, do not get emotional, stick to the facts, make a list. . It will empower your position, you won't be a doormat, this is what will happen... your work will be reviewed and carefully looked at. Make sure your work is of excellence with customer relations before you go into the discussion. Do better work than Sue. Cross all the t's dot all the i's and Boss cannot fire you for being pro-active, it is against the code of employee, employer relations. You could file a dispute.

Option Two
Start looking for another job but there is always going to be another Sue, there is one with every company. .

Option Three
Get the book on 'How to Deal with Difficult People'

Good luck

Answer 4

In every single job you will find someone that kisses the bosses ***. I don't think the best thing you should do is telling and complain about this woman to your boss, it'll back fire to you..instead...what you should do is do your job the best you can, don't ask her for favors and don't expect her to be nice with you, just ignore her and do all what your job requires you to do, and take the initiative when your boss needs help with something. In ANY job, they "love" when their employees take the initiative and are creative and team workers, if you make a mistake own it, and face it, try to find the solution to the problem. Your boss will appreciate you more and will start to note your good job than if you go there and complain about the woman that seems to be a friend to your boss, she wont appreciate that. If you think you can't handle someone like that and be a little bit more smart...you should find another job.

Answer 5

These situations are very common. My girlfriend was going through this not too long ago. For the most part you'll have to deal with the irritation. What you can do is always cover your butt. If you send an email out or something, cc the boss. So tell this Sue you need something done through email and cc the boss. That way she knows Sue was asked to do so. Or print out emails you sent, it has the date and time. Don't confront Sue, she won't loan up to it. But if you have proof that it was her fault, and she blames you, and you can call her on it. Nothings sweeter.

Answer 6

I have dealt with this kind of person before. You are just going to either suck it up and also get on the bosses good side or find another job. I had to eventually leave my job because of this because the boss will never believe you or see for herself how this woman really is. I hate to say this but I would rather work for a man any day, not as much drama!

Answer 7

Let me put your mind at ease. "Sue" can't make or break your job there. So, her brown nosing or tattle-telling has no impact on where you will go on life. Don't let Sue's antics get to you - most people butt kiss out of insecurity. And, your reaction to her brown-nosing is a sign of insecurty, as well. Be confident and know that you are a good employee, you are a vital part of the team, and you don't need to come early, stay late or laugh at dumb jokes to be valued. And, if worse comes to worse, and you DO end up getting canned, God has a better paying, more flexible job for you! So, don't worry about it!

Answer 8

Sorry, to say it, but, Sue is on her way up. Just keep your nose to the grindstone and do a good job. Take some lessons from her. When the boss asks for a favor, beat sue to it. Take the initiative. Do the best job that you can. Remember, Sue isn't being paid to please you. She is being paid to do her job and please her boss. Keep a journal of all the good things you do at work. Remember, while you are learning to deal with the harder parts of the job. You are getting better at your job. Never give in to the "I can't do better" attitude. Keep growing in your education and abilities. If you find that you can't advance in your current position, prepare yourself to move onto a better job elsewhere. Just never give up.

Answer 9

I think that you should let the boss know that Sue isnt the innocent little witch that she thinks she is. Tell the boss whats really going on. After all, youre not lying about it. Oh, and if theres any witnesses have them back you up. Think about it, if you dont say anything and keep quiet, one of these days they are going to let you go because of her. So go stand up for yourself!!!!

Answer 10

Gee you might have accidently taped her on the phone, or video taped her when you were doing a tape of yourself for you kids future. Then there is always the fake client that comes in and has a word with your boss about her behavior.