My friend is on my crew team and she was going to help out at our auction fundraiser. she didn't come because she was angry at her father for something he said (he was at the auction also) he came to me and asked me to call her to persuade her to come because he didn't think that she should miss out just because he made her angry.
so i called and said she didn't want to come because people didn't want her there and if they had, they would've called. now she's threatening to quit crew and now hates everyone there.
I think thats absolutely ridiculous and it seems she is just manipulating others to make herself feel good and she thinks she should be compensated to help out.
But the real question is, should people have called to ask her to come? When she's in a bad mood she is NOT fun to be around at all and that would've made the hectic evening even more stressful.
So I just want to know your opinions.
2007-01-29 11:36:40 · 15 answers · asked by Maureen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It sounds like she's being really stuck up, especially if she said people wouldve called if they wanted her there. She's trying to make herself feel better by flattering herself. Just give her some space.
2007-01-29 11:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by colour_my_world<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I understand the hurt your friend feels about the rift in her relationship with her father (I've been there before), I think she need to look at her priorities and decide if she's going to let her anger overtake the thrill of being part of something that positively impacts other people's lives, and ultimately her own life. She also needs to work out her issues with her father outside of the "crew", and her father might want to consider removing himself from that situation and not impose himself into every aspect of his daughter's life.
Granted, they should both be able to participate in these things, but her father is both the adult and the parent here and needs to demonstrate his sense of parental responsibility by effecting positive change in his relationship with his daughter.
As far as your role in this whole thing, it seems you would be best served trying not to get into the middle of the relationship problems between a father and a daughter, but still try to affect both their perspectives on the problem at hand.
2007-01-29 11:46:29 · answer #2 · answered by Ronnieboy34 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should have had to call her if she made it known that she was going to be there. I understand her maybe not coming, but she should of called and let someone know. We all have bad days but some people, when they have a bad day, want everyone else to have it with them. She'll probably change her mind again once she cools off, but she doesn't seem like a very level headed girl to have on a team, so beware.
2007-01-29 11:48:51 · answer #3 · answered by yaabro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like an angry child who was waiting to be rescued, and she became angrier because no one accepted the bait. Furthermore, her father is her enabler...coaching her friends to call her and do what she wants you to do.
I would call her, respond to her in an adult fashion, and tell her that you would like her help at the fundraiser if she is able to get herself under control, and if she's not...you'll see her whenever, and NOT beg and plead for her to come, and have her act like a brat when she gets there.
2007-01-29 11:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by sacanda_trina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is ridiculous and sort of childish. Did anyone even say they didnt want her there? I think she just is making it a bigger deal than what it really is. After a while she will probably cool down and get over it and wanna come back. Maybe her father should just apologize just so that she would come back. Well i hope i helped!
2007-01-29 11:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by smart brunette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing to remember is feelings never need justified... they are your feelings.... so angry/sad/happy what ever you are entitled to feel it....
Second thing is you never leave your friends out because they are in a bad mood.... you invite them and hope that you can cheer them up.... but a real friend wouldnt leave their friend out because of a mood. Friends are friends through good moods and bad moods....
Friends also dont judge each other....!
I honostly think you should evaluate your friendship oppose to putting your side of things on here in hopes of getting alot of people to agree with you... were only getting one side of things of course you will should like your right and she will sound wrong.....
2007-01-29 11:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by ♫♪♫ PINKY ♫♪♫ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's being very immature. yes words can hurt but your friend has to learn that she can't have her cake and eat it too. if she is just gonna make the day worse, it would be better if she just stayed home. if she were to go the the auction she might make someone else's day worse and then you would have two people mad and annoyed. its the snowball effect after that.
2007-01-29 11:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by Vanilla Soul 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well mayb that wasnt her day, we all have days like that, but the best thing to do is sit down with her and clear things. Straighten it out n if nothing good happens then just let her and her lost
2007-01-29 11:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal thought is that being it was for a fund raiser, she should have shown up regardless. She needs to learn to put her personal "problems" to one side when helping others. The one phone call from you was enough. Take care.
2007-01-29 11:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by SAK 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way you describe it, it sounds like people knew better than to. She'll grow out of it.
2007-01-29 11:41:27 · answer #10 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋