I've been friends with the same people since high school, and have known some of them for over a decade. The problem? As the years went by, we all grew apart and now have nothing in common. It's excruciating for me to spend time with them because they always force me to do the things they're interested in while at the same time shooting down and even making fun of my own suggestions.
When we get together, nobody ever talks about anything interesting; they always get drunk and retell the same boring stories from when we were teenagers. I'm getting sick of going down "memory lane" everytime I'm with them.
I'm starting to make new friends with similar interests and maturity levels, and have no fear of leaving the old ones behind.
I've realized they aren't the greatest friends, but sometimes I still see them around town and have to make up excuses for why I never call or spend time with them anymore. How can I politely yet honestly break off ties with them?
2007-01-29 11:17:57 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Rather than make up excuses, or admit that you've outgrown them. Simply repeat the "broken record excuse": "I've really been busy, very busy...with work, relationships, hobbies, whatever". Continue to restate you have been busy, busy, busy. Without directly stating "I am now too busy for y'all, they will eventually get it". You can also tell them you no longer enjoy a particular event or experience which only they seem to be interested in. Continue to remain a "broken record" and they will get it that you have changed and moved on with your adult life. I went through a similar experience with old friends and once I began letting them know I no longer enjoyed the things I used to enjoy with them,,,they moved on and let me go. Just stand your guns and refuse to participate in what you no longer want to do.
2007-01-29 11:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by sashali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she is someone and if issues do no longer bypass her way she blows off friends. tell her you do no longer recommendations in any respect being her daughter's caretaker whilst she is going out of city and you have been hoping you does not might desire to convey it up, yet you anticipate to be paid whenever you guard her newborn at $40 according to day. you already know that company between friends is confusing, yet you go with for it dealt with up front so there are no longer any no longer easy thoughts in a while. additionally, you do no longer choose for to might desire to point it every time so if she might desire to delight undergo in recommendations your affiliation you may get exhilaration from it. this could be extra advantageous dealt with in individual or a minimum of on the telephone. She does not have the midsection to ask you head to head, you be the only to have the midsection to guard your self and instruct her how that is finished. She desires you to observe her newborn together as she is long previous and she or he does not might desire to agonize approximately her daughter, you deserve the money and in case you'll be able to desire to ask this is shame on her, yet you'll be able to desire to stand up for your self. stable success.
2016-12-16 16:33:01 · answer #2 · answered by hirschfeld 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not polite way to do it. Just do it and forget about it. Life is short and if you spend with people you don't want to be around it just does not make any sense.
2007-01-29 11:24:03 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u don't have to tell them u don't want to be their friends...people make new friends...tell your friends how u feel. u can make new friends but don't have to see your other friends all the time...just because your making new friends doesn't mean u have to break away from the old ones
2007-01-29 11:23:45 · answer #4 · answered by starlilac4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop contacting them and stick with your new friends. Just because you were friends in school doesn't mean you have to be now.
2007-01-29 11:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by saturn man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋