Our families started calling everyday to see if we have had the baby so......my husband and I have already told our families that we do not want anyone in the waiting room and that we will call after we have the baby. Well of course my mother calls the hospital EVERYDAY to see if we are in there... I have told her WE DONT WANT ANYONE UP THERE.. but she says oh well.. i will be there anyway.. What do i do.. I dont mind if she comes up after we call her but we dont want her up there forever... how do i handle this without being rude.. i have already tried talking to her about it..
2007-01-29 11:09:31 · 19 answers · asked by me 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
By the way my mother is a little crazy..she was there with my first child.. i told her i did not want her in the room..but practically kicked the door down.. When my son popped out she jerked him from the doctor and said this is my baby (because i was under 18) And i do want visitors but not during or right after labor.. i would like to spend one on one time with my little one, my son and husband.. Is there really a need to play pass the baby?
2007-01-30 06:50:01 · update #1
would it really hurt to have your mom in the waiting room? you definitely don't have to see her before or during labor and delivery, and you can tell the nurses how you want your visitors handled. nurses are usually great at telling people *nicely* to get the heck out! a nurse can let your mom or any other family there know when the baby is born, and if you want a couple hours or something before you let anyone in, your nurse just tell them you are not ready for visitors. and you can tell her that you only want visitors there for a little bit, and let your nurse be the one to kick them out.
good luck... people usually forget how exhausted new moms are, and they don't care!
2007-01-29 11:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is your wish to not have anybody at the hospital until after your child is born. Your best bet would be to tell hospital staff, on the maternity floor to not tell anybody your there. They can alert people at the information desk also. Also your nurses can and will prevent anybody from being in the waiting room, labor room, and even maternity ward if someone does show up there. It is your decision and should be respected. I however had lots of people at the hospital when I had my children. Although I got aggravated, I felt the comfort of my family was wonderful. My mother was great and really helped me a lot. I am 30 wks pregnant with our third child and I wouldn't have it any other way. Good luck and I hope you and your husband have a wonderful experience together.
2007-01-29 19:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by peyton31602 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you want anyone in the waiting room? I mean I can understand that you guys want to share in the moment alone but I'm sure everyone is excited about it as well and want to be there to make sure things go well and of course to see the new arrival. I'm going in tomorrow to have my baby and I couldn't imagine not having my family up there with me. Of course we are all different. If you've already talked to her..hmm I mean just keep telling her to make it clear that that is what you want. You could always call the hospital and tell them the situation and tell them you don't want them to hand out the information that you are in the hospital. I'm not sure that would work but you could try. Or..well you just might have to be "rude" about it if she isn't getting it. I mean you want it a certain way and this is the birth of your child and should be as such...so maybe if you make sure you make everything very clear, even if you have to be rude she will get it and just wait for the phone call. Best of luck!
2007-01-29 11:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by ktpb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your mom insists on being there let her wait in the waiting room, what's the harm? I understand not wanting anyone in the delivery room with you guys. Be very firm with your doctor and the nurses that you do NOT want anyone but yourself and your husband in the delivery room. They will accomodate your wishes and keep anyone away, you can also restrict your visitors after you give birth. My family was far away when I gave birth with both my kids, but I don't think I would have wanted them in the delivery room either. It's a private moment for you, your husband and your child. You don't want to play pass the baby as soon as he/she is born. Sometimes parents just don't get it. Good luck!
2007-01-29 11:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by NCMOMMAAC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 30 weeks pregnant right now & my husband and I have discussed together that I do not want anyone to come to the hospital at least for several hrs. after our son is born. Sorry to hear that your family is not taking your feelings regarding this into consideration. It is an extremely private time and there's nothing wrong with not wanting anyone but you, baby and husband there. If they do go ahead and show, just tell your nurses that you do not wish to have anyone else present in your room until you give the green light. Best of luck to you! :)
2007-01-29 11:15:55 · answer #5 · answered by Stephania M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mother to 6 grandmother to 7 and 2 on the way. It would crush me if I were asked to stay away. sounds like you are a real control freak. This is after all going to be her grandchild and I am sure you will not bat an eye when it comes time for a babysitter. Believe me it's easier to leave it with someone you know and trust than just leaving it with anyone. If you want no one in there that's ok but asking everyone and especially your mother to stay away. This is going a little too far. Your hormones are working overtime. I can not believe any daughter would not want their mother and or family to share in such a wonderful blessing. I drove 200 plus round trip twice this weekend for a false alarm but you can bet your butt if she calls again on her Way to hosp i will be on my way there. This is a great event don't exclude everyone. you will regret that one sweetie. Hope it all works out!! Good Luck!!! By the way there is no way to not sound rude, because that's exally what you are being besides insensitive. You sound controlling and a spoiled brat to me!
2007-01-29 12:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by craftylady 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just explain to your mother that you and your husband just want to focus on the labor, birth and baby without having to worry about relatives hanging around for hours and hours in waiting rooms. Explain you would feel more relaxed in your labor knowing everyone was comfortable at home waiting for the good news and that you promise she will be the first to know. Say this is a stressful enough time without having added pressures and if she really wants to help you to please respect your wishes.
If all of that falls on deaf ears explain to her that it is not a good beginning for her new grandchild to come into an atmosphere of stress and anxiety for you. And still if she insists tell her she is leaving you no option but to be rude and you really don't want such a joyous occasion for everyone to come to that.
Good luck. I hope your family respects your wishes and even if they don't, don't let it dominate and ruin this rare and miraculous moment in you and your husbands life.
2007-01-29 11:21:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Most hospitals will throw people out if they are not invited, they have security for this and many other reason
2) This is why I lied about my due date ;-) Next time add 10 days or refuse to give a date at all (I did both). And my son was 8 days late.
3) Tell her your life, your rules. If she shows up before she is called not only will you have security escort her out, she will not be allowed to see the baby for one week. You need to be firm with people. She is being rude, don't feel like you have to be considerate.
4) The hospital generally will not admit that anyone is a patient except to the police.
2007-01-29 11:22:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's easy, you tell the nurses that by no means is your mother alloud in your room. They are used to keeping unwanted visitors out, don't even worry about that. They wont even tell you IF she shows so you can labor in peace and not have to deal with any of the drama there.
2007-01-29 11:14:47 · answer #9 · answered by Gig 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 06:49:32 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋