can you please help me im ready to sleep with a girl but i dont know how..can anyone explain it too me?
2007-01-29 11:09:09 · 10 answers · asked by sarina f 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
There's no right or wrong way to have lesbian sex. Basically, do whatever would feel good to yourself to her. Use your mouth, tongue, hands, fingers, lips, and anything else to please her.
The two of you can engage in penetrative sex (vaginal or anal, with toys like dildos or strap-ons, or just fingers/hands), cunnilingus (either one-at-a-time, or at the same time, in the '69' position), analingus, tribadism (rubbing your genitals together), grinding/humping, manual stimulation (using your hands to to pleasure her), mutual masturbation (masturbating one another at the same time, or separately but in one another's presence), kissing, rubbing, licking, touching, massaging, etc..
Basically, don't go into the experience plotting it out or overthinking it. Start out kissing and let things happen- it's part of the magic of sex that things will happen as they should. Work to please your lover, be attentive and pay attention, don't be too serious (sex should be fun and easygoing, not a stressful experience! Go ahead and laugh!), and don't have high expectations. First times are notoriously difficult for most people.
Beyond that, just think if you are really ready to have sex (emotionally and pyschologically, are you mature enough?), and make sure you're doing it with someone you care for- that will make any experience blissful.
Hope that helps.
2007-01-29 13:17:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Coming from one who not long ago faced this same dilemma, and if you happen to be older and have fooled around the other way. It is really all the same! Just start by the usual making out kissy feeling stuff and do what feels good. Get ready though mine turned into the best, most intense wonderful sexual experience I ever had! Believe me I was nervous at first!
2007-01-29 17:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by kar506 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with your girlfriend and discuss what you want to try and what you are comfortable with.. just start with kissing and cuddling together.. then you can start with touching each other - fingering, you can rub bodies together while touching genitals, you can have oral sex - either taking turns or 69, you might want to introduce sex toys as well.. it's really up to you both to decide what all you want to do.
but yah, make sure you are good and ready for this. sex can be very intimidating if you are not comfortable with yourself, not comfortable with your partner, and not sure in your right mind.. make sure you love this girl, don't just do it for the sake of having sex.. also, make sure you know her sexual history, at least to the point that you are confident that she doesn't have any diseases..
but yah, have fun, try to relax, and good luck.. and you don't have to go all the way on the first time.. you may just wanna stick to touching each other for a while before you get further deep into oral sex, etc..
2007-01-29 12:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will go with one of the other answerer's that mentioned that you sounded young, but here it goes. How do you know you are bi-sexual and you do not know how to go about it. If you are just trying to find out if you like it or not. Just go with the flow. If the other girl can turn you on, you will know exactly what to do. Your feelings will take over, and away you go. Enjoy!!!!!
2007-01-29 11:36:50 · answer #4 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should come naturally to you! You might want to pick up a couple of movies (porn) just to get a feel for it! But, you shouldn't rush it!
2007-01-29 11:17:48 · answer #5 · answered by Maria C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DONT YOU DARE BUST THE "TRIGGER FINGER" thats when you just literally finger a girl, classic novice move.
remember:circles are your friend, and dont be shy to use that toungue
2007-01-29 12:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by sidewalk_jackal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound way too young to have sex, but i will advise you anyway!
don't look at porn. bad ideas all around.
do go to a giant bookstore and look up a gay sex book. in short, use your hands and mouth wherever it feels nice, but most importantly,
ASK HER what she wants.
the end.
2007-01-29 11:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by scruffy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will come naturally, because being with another girl you no what they would like.
2007-01-29 14:31:20 · answer #8 · answered by traven_blood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the same things to her that you know would feel good to you. One thing for certain is that all women know how to please another woman. Stop stressin and go do it.
2007-01-29 11:34:51 · answer #9 · answered by ncgirl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just let nature takes it course
2007-01-29 11:13:35 · answer #10 · answered by nuttin'fancy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋