My sister wants to be a boy?

Question

ever sense my siter was 9 she was a cross dresser now shes telling me she wants to be a boy what what should she tell her friends and tell our parents and when she tells them what if they dont like her anymore what should i do to help her what should she tell her friends and family should she be ashamed please help

Answer 1

i'm going thru the opposite stage, i am a guy that wants to be a girl. finding a gender therapist who is supportive is critical. if she really does want to go thru with transforming, it is a huge process. and a therapist can help her map out the process.

you don't say her age, but generally late teens is a good time to transform.. colleges are usually very open to this. transforming will take 3 years, it won't be over night..

she'll need all the friends she can get and do whatever you can to encourage your parents to be supportive of this..

Answer 2

She should tell your parents that she wants to be a boy. Once they react, she'll know what to say next. The important thing to remember when coming out is that the first reaction is just that- a reaction. It can be the total opposite of what the actual outcome will be (better or worse). The same goes for her friends. Honesty is the best policy.

She definately should NOT be ashamed!! Many great people are and have been transgender!

She should try to get into the trans community if she can.

If you're interested, this is the website of a friend of mine who transitioned from female to male www.ftmtransition.com

Feel free to email me (through my profile) if you want more information, or just someone to talk to as you go through this. My fiance is female-to-male so I understand!!

Answer 3

You're a good brother to be helping her out with this. This kind of thing is never easy. She just has to suck it up and tell people at some point. If they don't like her anymore after that, then they should be ashamed of themselves. To be honest, since she has been crossdressing for many years, a lot of people might not be surprised at all. Good luck to both of you!

Answer 4

If your sister wants to be a boy then support her. If your parents and friends disapprove then tell your them just don't judge her of what she wants to be. Hope 4 the best.

Answer 5

Why ? Boy's are so dorky. Seriously though she should talk to a counsellor to sort through her real feelings. This may be a phase & then again it may be real. Either way she need professional help & so will the family.

Answer 6

She has a gender nonconformity. She very well could construct homosexuality as well. i believe those that have the gender nonconformity to that degree may have been predisposed to this by being born with hormonal imballances.
she should get counseling, and your parents should not waste time.

Answer 7

If she's well past nine years old, tell her she needs to come out proudly as a butch lesbian and drop the phony transsexual nonsense. She'll be a lot happier and she'll find plenty of other gals to love.

Answer 8

How old is she? I would tell her to wait until she is an adult until she gets any changes made.
I don't feel that way,but I would think that it would be (emotionally) painful. Please be there for her, she probably needs someone to talk to now more than ever.

Answer 9

Here are some links that might help

http://www.ourbodiesourselves.org/book/companion.asp?compID=18&id=11

http://www.firelily.com/gender/gianna/why.come.out.html

http://www.firelily.com/gender/gianna/parents.html

Good luck to you and even more to your sis. She's got a hard road ahead of her-- and kudos for being so supportive.

Answer 10

tell her to go for it she will have a fabulous life