I have been married for 23 yrs, my wife has not had sex with me for almost 9 months. We used to do it 5-6 times a week. I have never had sex with anyone but her our entire relationship. Last week a girl approached me and we talked. I gave her my # and she called me. She finds me attractive as I do her and she suggested we meet for a rondevue, I don't know the spelling but she meant meet to have sex. I have fantasized about her for these past days and I am needing some sexual healing if you know what I mean. I have tried to get with my wife but to no avail. I am 45 years old and need some loving woman touch. I am not overweight, don't go out to bars or anything like that. It seems my wife just turned off like a switch. Should I see this girl or what are my choices. I am not a bumb, I make a good living that supports my family, I'm just not getting any satisfaction. Is it wrong to search elsewhere?
2007-01-29 11:02:54 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please don't use this as an excuse to have an affair. You didn't mention if you talked with your wife about your feelings. Probably didn't because alot of guys who go elsewhere looking for nookie never bother to open those lines of communication with their wives. Same for wives who cheat. I don't understand why people have these feelings and can't TALK about sex with them. If they can have sex together why is it so damn hard to discuss it? I like discussing sex with my husband it's not hard for me. You should talk openly about this matter with your wife if you are so very unhappy and can't work out something than why put out for a woman you don't even really know and keep your wife on hold until she puts out then have sex with her. If you have a heart and morals you are going to kick yourself in the *** after your 2 mins of fun. If your wife doesn't listen to what you are feeling than i suggest a marriage counselor or if need be the last resort divorce.
2007-01-29 17:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your wife know that you really miss being intimate with her..and smooze her up to get laid not this other lady. Take your wife out to a romantic dinner..clean the house to take some stress off her plate..do something energetic and somethign that really turns her crank with her. Take her dancing, or show her your manly side somehow. Do NOT SLEEP WITH THIS WOMAN. Its an easy lay and what if one easy lay turns into many and you cant get rid of her? Do yo u want to throw away your whole marriage for her? I would get rid of her pronto and work on wooing your wife...do whatever you can to turn her on emotionally.
2007-01-30 00:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congradulations on your 23 Ann. we just celebrated our 22nd and things are going great. Couples like us need time away with each other like going to the Sybaris Pool Suites, I think we all get in our Comfort Zone from time to time but i don't think that should be looking to another women for sex i believe people our age have sex drives at different ages my hubby had his when he was young and mine is now and he does his best to satisfy me he has done alot for me like taking care of my need , his family etc. and we shouldn't be selfish maybe your wife is going thru her mid-life crisis it happens like i said before different times and that the battle or joy we have to help each other with. Praying helps too nothing wrong with talking to a higher power the person that created us good luck in love and life.
2007-01-30 13:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by bustnloose_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with your wife and tell what you feel and how much you miss the sex with her and ask her whats wrong. you took an oath that your wife would be the only one don't brake it.
2007-02-02 18:53:40 · answer #4 · answered by stanley w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋