My best friend, who lives on the East Coast met a guy in Vegas last March. Things moved pretty fast and within 6 months they were engaged, then eloped a few months after.She still lives on the east coast because of work, but she has made every effort to see him every chance she got. He flew out once to meet her family.This man has a son and has been married twice and engaged a few months to someone else before he met my best friend. Now mind you, I had just went through a serious break up w/ my ex, he cheated on me, and she advised me if anyhting ever happened like that, she would be done with him. Well, she found out two weeks ago that her "husband" has been cheating on her w/ another girl, and even told this girl that he loved her and that my best friend is an ex wife that lives in NY and is dieng of cancer!! She flipped out of course, but now he is telling her how sorry he is and doesn't know why he did it. Now, she is beginning to seem like she will give him another chance!
2007-01-29 10:53:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well it usually easier to give advice than to take them... Of course she will tell you to leave your cheating husband in a minute because she is not the one who loves him.. You do.
So now she is in the same situation only that this time she loves the man who cheated on her... The best thing for you to do is be a friend and stand behind her on her desision and remind her that next time you need a friend, that is what she suppose to be a friend will listen and not critize, a friend would respect your choices and let you learn your mistakes on your own, and only offer a shoulder to cry on without trying to run your life. So for now you be a friend to her by doing this things I've just said. She will be there for you next time.
2007-01-29 11:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will agree that she is stupid for marrying him. I think some people don't understand what marriage or even love is about but i would not go as far as to say she deserves it. I wouldn't give this guy the time of day. Tell her to face it, she can never trust him, especially now. I don't even know why they got married in the first place. This is terrible. Just have her get a divorce and get it over with. Men like that won't change, and there is no reason he has to, he's getting his cake and eating it too!
2007-01-29 19:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Face 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why is he still living in Vegas? She should have thought about things a little longer, and made arrangements about where they would live together. They say love is blind. She had to decide what is going to be best for her. I know how she feels about forgiving her husband and giving him another chance. My husband cheated on me and I forgave him and stayed. We have a great relationship and have learned to trust him again. It wasn't easy and took along time. She has to make her own decisions, stand by her and respect her decisions. Just be there just in case.
2007-01-29 19:10:22 · answer #3 · answered by witchypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she should have seen the red flags once she found out that he has already been married twice! She kinda screwed herself over on this one, not to sound rude, but I would have stayed away from anyone that has been divorced unless their spouse was killed or died of an illness. I hate divorce, but she should consider that. He obviously hasn't been a good husband for two women, but third time isn't always a charm.
2007-01-29 19:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This falls under why love is blind. If youre about to mingle in your friends relationship, you are about to tread where Angels fear to go. This guy sounds like he was bad news in the first place, but she was blind to him and went where fools rush in. Theres probably not much youre going to do to change her mind except unfortunately youre going to have to let her figure this one out the hard way. Good luck
2007-01-29 19:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get an annulment and move on with her life. This guy sounds like a serious loser is basically just in it for getting what he wants. I hope your friend comes to her sense and sees this for what it is and makes the right decision.
2007-01-29 18:59:55 · answer #6 · answered by truckerman96 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately she has to walk a mile in your shoes. Life is a great teacher. Be on standby as a friend. Is all you can do. She will resent anything further than that.
2007-01-29 19:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to divorce him on grounds of adultery. Trust me, lawyers will line up around her block to take a case such as this.
If she takes him back, he will cheat again.
2007-01-29 19:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lerat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best friend is a dumb a*ss bi*tch. She needs to learn her lesson. She needs to suffer. Don't do anything. Just tell her that she is wrong, and her husband will cheat on her again. You can tell her I told you so when it happens again and again and again.
2007-01-29 19:04:22 · answer #9 · answered by Sax M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
and if everyone tell you to tell her to dump him, and you show her this do you think she will still be your friend?she is going to do what she think is right in her mind. maybe you can try and talk to her but i doubt it will help. just pray for her and voice your concerns. good luck
2007-01-29 19:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋