Hello;) I've been living in England for about 3 years now, and i noticed that many couples live together, for many years and don't get married...!!! why?? what's the problem with marriege? if you share a life together is almost the same thing.. why not sign a damn paper?
2007-01-29 10:52:24 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why fix somthing that isnt damm broken?!!
2007-01-29 10:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 2⤋
in asian countries, this lifestyle is catching up real quick as well. signing the paper will mean having to sign yet another paper if the couples were to get divorced...so...to save time and money, people don't get married officially.
on the other side, if couples are together for years and still are loving each other so much, they consider them as married. love is the symbolical thing already, why must sign the paper?
marriage is no longer a tradition which involve group of families and friends....but it's becoming more of a two-person kind of thing. married or not, it's between the two people. some like to involve families, some don't.
2007-01-29 15:54:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A number of reasons I think.
The first is that many couples want to be confident about their relationship and compatibility before they even consider getting married. They consider they need to live together to really discover each other and whether it would work or not.
The second is that the paraphernalia surrounding a wedding is so damned expensive (not the ceremony itself) that people are put off going through with it unless they are absolutely certain and until they are wealthy enough to cope with it.
The third is that some folk are prepared to live with each other while not making the sorts of vows and commitments which are made in marriage.
Another is that many people witnessed too many messy divorces taking place before it was socially acceptable just to live together they decided they would rather have the option of having a less complicated end to a relationship if ti all started to go wrong or their relationship just fizzles out. However now the law has changed and those who live together have just about the same rights and responsibilities as those who marry, so the attractiveness of living together without marrying for the sake of an easy exit strategy is starting to wear off in some quarters.
Sharing a life together is not quite the same as getting married. Getting married - unless people are being purpousfully hypocritical about their vows - is not just about a damn piece of paper. That said, many unmarried people are living as loving and committed lives together as many married people.
As a cleric - I'm delighted when people who mean it come to me to ask to be married, even if they have been living together for years. I am aslo fearful for those who come to me to "take the plunge" and are clearly naive about what they are letting themselves in for.
2007-01-29 17:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by stgoodric 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Signing a 'damn paper' is no proof of commitment when divorce is easy to come by. What is the point in dressing up in a silly white dress and wasting a lot of money on a wedding ceremony? I certainly have no interest in it. A piece of paper means nothing - much less than my relationship with my partner ...... marriage is simply a tradition.....great idea for traditional people.......
2007-01-31 09:12:27 · answer #4 · answered by wordwitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think since the 60's this country has been on the slip morally, maybe that might have been due to the pill invention, sex with out responsibility and all that, and we are heading more and more towards a more selfish society, more lonely pursuits, more materialism, family and marriage isnt important anymore, I think with the younger generations 30 and under its more prevelent unfortunately. I think we are heading in the direction more and more now of singledom society, where sex will be just a pleasure enjoyed in the moment and not in the long term with one person.
2007-01-31 01:19:08 · answer #5 · answered by greatdane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are 'married' in a way. whats a bit of paper.? I Don't need this to tell my partner I love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him! We are totally committed to each other and I don't need a public record to show this. Marriage is fine for some ,I have no problem with that..its just not necessary these days.There is no 'stigma' attached to living together these days!
2007-01-29 16:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my husband lived together 2 1/2 years together before we got married.
getting married is a big thing and it's important to be really sure if you want to spend the rest of your life with that person.
it's better being together for a while before getting married. definitely better than getting married, and then a year or two (or even earlier) get divorced because you found out that that person is not the right one for you.
2007-01-29 10:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by carmen1509s 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well one day i see me and my blokey getting married but living together is a step towards that. If u can't live together then....! Live together, marriage, kids... that's the way i see it. But to others that may seem "old fashioned".
My friends Laura and Paul are still very much in love after 10 years together, they've lived together for the majority of that time and have 2 kids but yet they say marriage just isn't for them. Since the kids have arrived they've talked about it, for their sake, but they worry it'll change things.... why change a good thing?
2007-01-29 11:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by Fay 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
because were smart...and yep...your right, thats all it is...a piece of "damn" paper, and people spend grands on a massive wedding, then aftr a year or so, it's gone, why waste good money likethat when you can live together....not many people here in UK want to get married any more, it's easier to leave a relationship if things don't go right, when your married you have to go through all that drama and legal crap...why bother when you can just walk away
2007-01-29 12:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was married for 18yrs and have been divorced for 11 and I would not get married again ever. If it's about signing a bit of paper it is the same as the other bit of paper(divorce) to go with it in many cases.
2007-01-29 11:08:57 · answer #10 · answered by Bernie c 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Living together is a more authentic relationship. I don't know about England, but in the states a man loses half of his property if a woman divorces him. So by living together, couples can express their love for each other and still be safe financially if it doesn't work out.
2007-01-29 10:59:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋