I have been in a very rocky relationship for 5years. My boyfriend has an addiction problem. While he was in rehab I recently had a one-night stand, there were no feeling involved and it meant absolutely nothing to me. My intention was to get back at him for all the hurt he has put me through. I really want to tell him, I want to be honest. Should I?
2007-01-29 10:36:43 · 23 answers · asked by jesmarsut 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no, i say this becuz u wouldnt want him to return to his addiction from telling him this fact. sounds like a episode from my soaps
2007-01-29 11:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by tami g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but I am not a fan of someone who can cheat wether there were feelings or not. You should have told him you wanted to see other people. He has an addiction, and if he put you thru so much hurt, you could have left him. You need to tell him the truth. Where are your morals?? Integrity? Character? Those are questions you need to ask yourself. Maybe you have a chance to make a wrong a right, but if he chooses to yell and hate you, and let you go, he has every right.
2007-01-29 19:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...first of all...I think you should not be with this guy. He obviously doesn't bring the best out of you and vice versa. Cheating for revenge doesn't include love. Your relationship is not real. A truthful and meaningful relationship doesn't include drugs, infidelity (emotionally and physical), revenge or feelings of hate. I think that you are going down a very rocky path and the end with not be what you think it is. You will be better off without him, especially if he is making you question yourself. Question: How's your relationship with your family, friends, work? Does he constantly beat down your dreams and aspirations? If so, he is making you his doormat to wipe his dirty feet on. Stand up and take charge of your life. It's never too late.
2007-01-29 19:09:42 · answer #3 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell. It will just cause a lot of trouble. It was just a fling and nobody needs to know. I do hope it was good for you. You have to do things like that occasionally just to maintain your sanity. If you feel you got back at him by doing it, then you are even. If you do it again, then maybe you should tell him you would like to separate because you really should not be in a relationship that you have to get back at each other.
2007-02-02 17:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by The 5 pound Robin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made your decision to have sex with someone else so that he can realize how you feel. So, if you do not tell him, you will not have accomplished your goal. Sure, it might harm your relationship, but once you tell him what you've done, it is his decision whether or not he wants to stay. Believe me, if you don't tell him now while you can explain it in a calm way, you will probably say it to him during your next argument. And, that is not good!
2007-01-29 18:55:32 · answer #5 · answered by Oh My! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should tell him and you should be prepared to deal with whatever he has to say. Cheating is not a way to get back at somebody for hurting you. Adults work things out, not retalliate on each other. That is so ignorant. Who knows, maybe things will work out and he will reveal that he has cheated on you before as well. Then it will be even.
2007-01-29 18:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to tell him to get back at him for all the hurt he's caused you, right? You've answered your question. Personally, I wouldn't if I were you. You said it meant nothing, just sex a good roll in the hay, right? So you're willing to lose something over something you felt nothing for. That's not right.
2007-01-29 18:43:49 · answer #7 · answered by Add Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont seem to want to be honest, you seem to want to hurt him.
If you tell him your relationship wont ever be the same. Every argument you have he will throw it back in your face, and you will really resent it.
I think honesty is the best policy, but only when the honesty is for a good reason, not a spiteful one.
Be really careful what you say, and if you do decide to tell him, please dont do it while having a fight!
2007-01-29 18:55:58 · answer #8 · answered by jacks my boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want someone else to end up telling him?
The truth always comes out sooner or later, believe me.
My husband got himself busted, after goofing off for 7 years.
Yes, 7. I guess he thought he was home free, then it just fell in my lap.
I'd rather be the one to tell if I did something.
2007-01-29 19:00:13 · answer #9 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting back at someone is not worth it. You had a one night stand with someone you don't even know. You better go and get tested for STD's. Getting back may have cost you your Life(AID's) and maybe your boyfriend, if you had sex with him.
In his time of need you were only thinking about yourself and know one else. WHAT A PRICE TO PAY.
Good Luck!!!!
2007-01-29 18:54:13 · answer #10 · answered by GOD IS LOVE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Revenge is for the ignorant
2. Cheating is for the weak
My opinion of you is very low. Yes, tell him so he may have the chance at a relationship with someone who is more supportive. He is in rehab therefore trying to right his wrongs. You made yourself the judge, juror and executioner by opening your leggs.
2007-01-29 18:43:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋