My highschool sweetheart of 15 years left me for him. Very hard moving on but every day seems to get better. How long does the depression last i feel numb and my emotions are in and out. I was veeery hurt to say the least. My friend told me that it took him 2 years and it was like somebody hit him on the head with a hammer!
2007-01-29 10:34:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Two years is about right although you will still have bad days well after that time.I have been divorced six year now and sometimes when a memory comes back or special occasions like holidays, birthdays and anniversaries come around it gets hard to shake the feelings.It's normal to have bad days but it's up to you to move on and find that happy place again.Hang in there it gets better.
2007-01-29 13:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
I can say i was very depressed and tore up for a while when my second husband abandoned me and my kids within the first six months of marriage... That was the week of Christmas and i was so sad and in tears and could not even enjoy Christmas with my kids and i thew a whole turkey in the garbage... But over time and a few years i learned to let him go and trust God for my life and my kids... God finally sent a wonderful man my way and i divorced my husband who abandoned me and am now married and very happily so... I would not have it any other way. Healing will take you time and you may even need couseling to help you get through this and past the pain of it... But with time it will get better believe it or not... I can feel your pain and you will be in my thoughts and prayers and here comes lots of hugs your way today.... Once things get better you will feel better and be able to slowly be happier and move on with your life.
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2007-01-29 10:41:49 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I had depression after splitting up with my ex-spouse. I got treatment for it (both therapy and medication), and it got better within months. A lot depends on you, and on how well you handle trauma. I tend to be pretty resillient, and don't let stress take over my life. Don't be afraid to seek medical help, but I would also encourage you to make a strong effort, on your own, to pull yourself together. It can be a lot of work to go about the day-to-day stuff when you feel like your heart has been ripped out, but you have to keep yourself going at all times. It does get better eventually (even when you don't think it ever will!) Turn to your friends and family to support; chances are, they all have been through some variation of such traumatic experience, and will sympathize deeply with what you're going through. Good luck.
P.S. I am now re-married, and couldn't be more grateful to my ex for setting me free when he did.
2007-01-29 10:47:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is very traumatic for the ones left behind. It took 10 years for me to get completely over mine. 2 to start moving on. Yes depression prevailed. And time seems slow. You have to take one day at at a time. Take care.
2007-01-29 10:41:59 · answer #4 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
takes some time to get past it, we really never get over it, but the hurt and pain does diminish. there is nothing harder in this life to have to go through than this. we just have to accept it, and know it wasn't our fault but theirs. as marriage should be built on god's principals and when it isn't that's where all the problems come in. marriage is built on compassion, trust, and love, and not just a contract but a covenant. when someone gives up on a marriage they actually miss out on getting past the troubles, and going on to something better. but some don't know this, and their marriages are built on conditions. there will be a grieving process u will be going through, and it will be difficult, u will need a close friend, a minister, or a therapist to help u, and alot of prayer. good luck to u
2007-01-29 10:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't have too much depression, it seems like whenever I drank alcohol, I really missed him and I would call him like a dumb person. It took me only a few months to get over it. The bulk of my time getting over him was when I was in the relationship with him, I was very miserable with him, good luck.
2007-01-29 11:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by beachgirl800 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Left me for him?
Well the only thing to do is to go out to bars or clubs or with friends just get out and after time it will bass no one can tell you how much time.
O and i for got get rid of all of the old stuff you pic's and other things
2007-01-29 10:45:53 · answer #7 · answered by the black hand 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know EXACTLY what you are going through. I am 4 months in right now after my wife left me out of the blue for another guy.
This is the question I posted last week....22 more answers for you:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AiWS_jLsTb1LZNFEan1FF97sy6IX?qid=20070125090741AAe70vB
I wish I knew the right answer myself. Good luck my man...I am with you in this one.
2007-01-29 10:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by fedup 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people have depresion, some have anger, some have joy, it takes time to stabilize after something like that
2007-01-29 11:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah its gonna hurt for a while when u love someone.
2007-01-29 11:12:08 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋