Do you feel it is worth losing your spouse and family over? What about the chance of STD's? I want feed back and answers... This should be interesting... When and if you have cheated have you felt guilty and sorry for what you have done and have tried to work it out with your spouse afterwards?
2007-01-29 10:18:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No! It really hurts not only your spouse but the families and the kids, no matter how old they are!
Many of the STDs are permanent and/or deadly so why risk your spouse's life and yours? It's not fair! My spouse cheated and the STD issue was one of the factors that made me the most angry and hurt! He gave me an STD (thank God, it was one that was cured with antibiotics!).
I forgave him and tried to work it out with my spouse but in the end, he made the decision to dessert us to live with what I was told was a crazy drug addict.
I wish I had packed up and left him immediately to give him and me time to assess and think about the situation. It would have either made him realize that he wanted me or it would have ended it sooner and let the healing get on with and get over sooner. Dragging it out is NOT beneficial to anyone.
Even adult children suffer when their parents divorce! Besides my son, I've had several "victims" confirm it.
2007-01-29 10:37:46 · answer #1 · answered by rugbee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is never worth it!!! It may feel good and pleasurable a moment or short time but there are consequences for doing wrong to your spouse and marriage... One night of passion or cheating or even an affair tears down what you have built with your wife or husband and family and it is very hard to rebuild the relationship and trust after that.... No I do not feel it is worth it at all and if people would think before doing this there would be much less cheating going on.
2007-01-29 10:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I been on both side of the fence. In both of them don't feel good at all. There's never know middle ground. If your the cheater it's like your always fighting with your self. Then after wards you feel ugly inside, dirty and it gets hard to look at that person in the face. The first time I did it I felt so guilty that I told him. He stood with me. But it didn't feel the same. It took years for me to feel normal again with him. In it wasn't worth it.We were together for 10yrs. in have two children together. Where not together today. We been separated for 15yrs. After all that he cheated too. Now my husband now has cheated on me I lost count after 10X's. And every time I try ed to work it out with him. But this last time he did it I didn't. I gave up trying. I'm separated from him.And we have one children together. So you see cheating creates a living .........h e l l ...........it breaks family up and When your in the middle of it trying to work it out, then comes the trust issue. In that's a hole other playground that's played. The bottom line is it's not wroth it. And most of the time the one who doing the cheating losing and the children most of all. Because at the end your the one who f u c k up. Your family is your family in there the ones who are there if your fair, right. Trust me it's not worth losing your spouse and family over for some a s s you see. Or some women or men who going to make you feel good with sex or words. Your family can do that for you. If your right. But if your the type of person who b i t c h 's all the time, always in a bad mood your not going to get a good feed back from your spouse or family. The bottom line is no it's not worth it.
2007-01-29 10:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not a cheater and i think it wouldn't be worth it. Not only losing your spouse and family over it but what if that 2 mins of pleasure gets yourself a lifelong STD and think about your spouse too. Risking not only a person's own health but their spouse as well and cheaters don't ever think about none of this stuff like it will never happen to them and that's no way to think.
2007-01-29 10:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just look at my previous questions, you may find what it is like to cheated on!
I am heartbroken, even though he says he is a changed man, my life as well as me has changed! I am a different person, not the happy-go-lucky-person I was, not the self-confident person I was! A lot of me has gone!
I do not know if I will ever love him like I used to, He was my world and he has broken me!
He shared our intimacy with a Russian slag, who I have since learned, has been with other ex-pats!
If I decide to end this marriage, and reveal why (no one knows of his cheating, i deal with it alone) he will lose the respect of his 3 sons, his Friends, not to mention his family and mine (who think he is wonderful).
I am the cheated one, and he is doing his best to make up for his cheating, but NO, it is not worth it!
Will be interesting if to see he answers this question!
But I will never now, coz he changes his ID on Y!A every day!
2007-01-29 10:36:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all cheaters might supply up and picture approximately if it incredibly is incredibly worth it, 0.5 does not cheat. No it incredibly is not. you have alot to lose while you're caught and opportunities are high you will get caught cheating, i don't care who it incredibly is. i myself would possibly never think of of cheating , i does not desire it finished to me so why do it to somebody else? and that i've got stumbled on that once a guy or woman has cheated they blow that have faith and it will take a protracted time to construct it back if it could ever be equipped.
2016-10-16 06:47:06 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that...and no matter WHAT they were doing to you, it's not losing your dignity, self respect, nor walking around with the guilt you feel for the rest of your life. In my case it was 12 years ago, and it STILL comes back to haunt me. Not only that, but people never really trust you, even if it was that long ago, and even if it was before them. If I could go back, at that one moment, I'd make the RIGHT decision, and save myself a lot of self loathing. No, it's not worth it. (Not to mention losing your spouse, you lose part of yourself.)
2007-01-29 10:48:04 · answer #7 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are u kidding cheating on your spouse is NOT worth it.
2007-01-29 10:24:26 · answer #8 · answered by lauren l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I deffinatly don't feel it's worth it. Not just because of the possibilities of the STD's but I think the guilt and remorse would be alot worse.
2007-01-29 10:22:52 · answer #9 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive never cheated but have been cheated on. Neither of those relationships lasted after that!
2007-01-29 10:34:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋