My mothers step-daughter is 14 years old and is constantly breaking any and all rules that are established...There have been rules such as taking off her door and taking away "some" technology...the kid has done everything from tried to kill my mother by being consistantly stupid such as putting a plastic container on a lit stove top! It needs to be stopped and now the girl has gone to far...now she is trying to break my mother and her new husband up who have been together for more than 5 years so please help by giving me some very good and harsh punishments that will really get to her head and make her believe that they arent messing around anymore!!!!!!!
2007-01-29 09:48:01 · 13 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When my sister was acting up in highschool and rebelling against the world, my mom would always tell her she wasnt going to get anywhere in her life blah blah blah....ofcourse as a highschooler she never listened. One day my mom took her to the jail and dropped her off at community service (with other peers as inmates) and that helped it CLICK in her head to calm down....it still took a little time after that but her rebellion def slowed down and eventually came to a stop.
2007-01-29 10:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by roxybeach793 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off if you are under 18 and stronger than her personally ild beat her up then tell her to grow the hell up and deal with the fact she isnt the only person in her daddys life..other than that the only part you can do if you are over 18 is sit down..better yet tie her to a chair and have a long talk and ask her how she would feel if she were older and feel inlove with a man who had a kid and she cared deeply for them both but it felt as if the step daughter were trying to destroy not only her but the relationship with the only person she loved..ask her that and seek out a reaction..i know the tieing her to a chair sounds rough but it will wrk tape her mouth shut if need be so she cant drown you out
2007-01-29 19:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by K.C. W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you have to want to know what kind of change has gone on for this teen girl....ask her what is bothering her. chances are she may not tell you but ask anyways.....get her some counseling.....and get the parents into a teen parenting support group, they usually are cheap and run for only 12 weeks or less. Just remember this will not change for the better anytime soon because that is how teens work.....i should know, she sounds like a sidekick of my teen that has been puting me a single mom threw it........these things have worked for me.....and still very little but some progress.....he is still a rebell but at least it has not gotten worse since i tried some of these suggestions.....but remember TIME...but the two adults should at least be on the same page if they intend to stay togther, bring professionals into it for some guidance it works....goood luck.
2007-01-29 10:01:15 · answer #3 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no punishments to give this child. AT this point nothing is going to work. All punishment will do is build resentment and hostility. She has gone way over-board. The only suggestion I have is therapy. Really. She is in serious need of attention and that is why she is "acting out". Please insist your Mom and her husband get her (and them) some very good family counseling and some one on one counseling also. Good luck. This sounds like a very dangerous situation.
2007-01-29 09:54:50 · answer #4 · answered by suzycrmchz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call the police on her and when she gets out, her room is bare naked. A pillow and a blanket and her clothes replaced with plain sweat suits. Generic everything. No pretty hair things, no jewelry...no games, no books, no way out. Nothing. Just what she needs to live. Give them back a little at a time and if she acts up again, take them all again.
2007-01-29 09:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by sheepinarowboat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like your parents punish her, but they aren't seeing it through. They need to be firm and make sure that they mean what they say and they follow through with the punishment all the way. Otherwise, it will only encourage the step daughter to break even more rules because she knows that she can get away with it. Start with solitary confinement.
2007-01-29 09:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sax M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all seriousness, beat the crap out of her. Some kids are just too stupid/spoiled/selfish/terribly raised to listen to words or take anyone seriously. Simply show her once and for all who is the boss. Take care of it soon before she winds up knocked up by some 30 yr old.
2007-01-29 09:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by JenefaJean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 14 and I usually take away the computer (by taking the mouse & keyboard away) and/or I take away his cell phone. Those are the 2 things he just can't live without so it's the punishment that works best on him.
2007-01-29 09:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Watch Super Nanny or get SuperNanny's book. Punishing her instead of finding out why she's acting the way she is and solving those problems will only make her worse.
2007-01-29 09:52:32 · answer #9 · answered by Krissy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it's not punishments this girl needs, but more time and affection. Your mother will meet with more success with time and care than belts and harsh words.
Where's her daddy? He should be raising her, not your mom.
2007-01-29 09:53:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋