what kind of things can me and my gf do to spice the mood up a little???
2007-01-29 09:33:34 · 5 answers · asked by kimgurl 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
1) Make changes. If things are stuck in a rut, then changing up the way you do things is bound to add some variety. If you always have sex at night, try a little afternoon delight on a lunch break. If the lights are always off, try it with them on. Always in the bedroom? Take it to the kitchen! Starting to see what I'm talking about?
2) Roleplaying. It's always fun to try some games- it can be hot and sexy, or, depending on how it goes, just laugh-out-loud funny). There are a million scenarios to act out in your home, no outfits required (though they're a fun addition)- doctors and patients, french maids and stern mistresses, cops and robbers, you get the picture. Be creative and enjoy!
3) Gender play. A lot of people don't like it, but some people are pleasantly surprised that they occasionally enjoy dressing up as the other sex in the bedroom. You can be the guy seducing the straight girl, or you can both play at gay guys. It doesn't mean anything about your sexual orientation, and it can be quite fun, particularly when combined with roleplay.
4) Try some sense play. This is often called S/M or BDSM, but that has to do more with roleplaying, or in conjunction with it (which is fun and should definitely be tried). Tying one another up, using feathers and other items to play with touch, light spanking and similar stuff can be really great. Blindfold one another. Be creative, again.
5) Try a sex act you've never tried before. If you've never done anything with your butt, try some anal stimulation. If you haven't given penetration a try, go for that. You might find out that you've been avoiding these things for a reason, and realize you still don't like 'em, but then again, you might find a new passion! Similarly, grab a book of daily sex positions or something similar and work your way through!
6) Rent or buy a pornographic video and copy what they do on the TV screen. If it's a good, hot video that you like (and there is great lesbian porn, whether you're into femme-femme or butch-femme or butch-butch stuff, you just need to browse around), this is a guaranteed fun one. Or, if you aren't into the visual stuff, get some erotic reads and read aloud to one another.
Those are some things that might help spice up the relationship. Hope they help!
2007-01-29 13:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing beats REALLY outstanding food and wine to put you in the mood! Do some research on the best possible restaurant in your area and spare no expense - make sure you order the top wines also... Just being so decadent is in itself very sexy! Plus the sensory hit you get from really outstanding food and wine will carry over in to the bedroom...
Really treat yourselves!
2007-01-29 18:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by Tirant 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on dates. Intimate things. Make a date on Monday to go out to dinner on Thursday. Then make it fun. Put the werd out you're recptive and it should happen by the weekend. Sometimes the same night and then the weekend again. Those are good dates on Thursdays.
2007-01-29 18:02:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my exes and i were into s&m so we used whips, cuffs, scarves, etc. if you're not hardcore like me, then maybe just some cuffs and a little playful spankin will mix it up a bit. we also used pillsbury whipped strawberry frosting all over and licked it off. it stays on for a while so youll have to work hard to get it all off. ;p have fun
2007-01-29 18:09:16 · answer #4 · answered by looking for love this time 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't change the faces, change the places. Get away for the weekend.
2007-01-29 17:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by lcraesharbor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋