ok.so.here's the problem.there's this girl in my college who has a huge crush on me. last term she came and told me how she felt abt me,plus she asked me if i felt the same way abt her.(she was sweet,quite pretty & a really nice person).i would have yes.but i wasn't looking for a relationship then,plus the fact i was still getting over another girl.i told her that & i also told her that we could still be friends.
now this term,she doesn't even talk to me as she used to before,though i know for a fact that she doesn't have any hard feelings on me(she told me she understands everything & that she's ok with it).we don't meet much since we don't take any classes together.(just during break & while passing through the hall)in the past,she used to sometimes come upto me,but not now.by what my friends have told me(she's even made a card for my b'day though i know for a fact that she's not planning anything special with me in mind for valentine's day)
i'm confused.why's she acting like this?
2007-01-29 09:23:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
btw,i told her that in a nice way
2007-01-29 09:23:24 · update #1
You need to understand, you basically told her you didn't want a relationship with her. It may have been a year ago, but still, you told her that. She's not going to approach you about seeing each other. She doesn't want the risk of being shut down again. The ball is in your court. The quickest way to find out if she is interested is to ask her out on a date. If she accepts, great. If not, she's lost interest. That way you'll know and can quit wondering how she feels about you.
2007-01-29 09:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, I think she's embarrassed. She said she understands and she's OK with it, but by now you may have caught on that women hide their feelings. She's hurt. She put herself out there and got turned down. I'm sure she still has some feelings for you and it's hard for her to be around you now, knowing that you don't feel the same. Give her time, she'll get past it and maybe you can salvage your friendship. Best of luck.
2007-01-29 17:35:45 · answer #2 · answered by cabinfemur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You turned her down. If you are interested in her, you need to let her know. She is giving you space and time to deal with your issues. Once you are done being psycho, you can go tell her you are better. You removed the opportunity for her to be attracted to you. You need to just say "Hi" to her and redevelop the relationship. Take the initiative.
2007-01-29 17:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by slap_shot69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you foolish boy, you really hurt her by rejecting her. Boy guys are truly dense sometimes. She did something that is INCREDIBLY HARD for most women to do....to humble herself and tell you she likes you and you "underwhelmed" her with your lack of enthusiasm. Perhaps she doesn't think your such a hottie anymore considering how you dismissed her. I don't fault you for dismissing her, it is your true feelings, but don't pretend not to know why she is lukewarm toward you now....I mean come on....DUUUUUUUH!
2007-01-29 17:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by sheepinarowboat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you busted her bubble. It took a lot of courage for her to confess her feelings to you. And, its like having a door closed in your face.
2007-01-29 17:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by HowdyThere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is probably really emarassed...well she is kinda being imature i mean COLLEGE?! i wouldnt waist my time on it
2007-01-29 17:28:45 · answer #6 · answered by Paul R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋