what am I? why do I do crazy things like this?

Question

Andy is not my husband! He is just a person I met on my space.I placed an a spot on there saying that I was single.My real husband is kelly we have been together for 11 yrs.I have done him wrong so many times that I lost count. kelly has a heart of gold even after all that i have done to him, he has always been there for me to pick me up an make the hurt that these other guys do to me go away. My kids are hurt by the things I do just as much as kelly is.Andy wants me to marry him an he thinks kelly is my x and that I just live with him to have roof over my head an be with my kids.I tell kelly if he says any thing to him that he well never see his kids again. kelly has told me that andy is living in the lie that I have told him. he live 6 hours away an that he can not be in love with someone that he has never met. that the only thing andy is wanting is in my pants an thats the only reason he is saying that he loves me. So what am I? why do I do kelly like this I really do love him HELP

well to let everyone that has answered this question or read it i really dont care what anyone else says or thinks anymore about me bc i am leaving kelly and thats my final answewr

Answer 1

Because you are selfish and self-centered and don't give a crap about someone who has had children with you and dedicated his entire life to. All his love! What a waste you are!

Answer 2

well sorry you dug a hole so deep for yourself dear, but the true of the matter is you need to confront your true feelings towards Kelly, yes you've mentioned that you love him, but have ever thought it might be just you respect Kelly because of your kids and the time he has invested in you and the family? maybe it's just an inflactuation, when you fall Kelly is there to pick you up and he's the wings when you can't remember how to fly...???
You don't love Kelly, because that's not how you treat someone you love, the father of your children, to make matters worse you're even ashamed to tell Andy that Kelly is your husband, if you were cheating atleast let your lovers know you're married and have kids....the true is Kelly loves you and is afraid of facing the world alone without you and you're take an advantage on that.
This is what you need to be doing, start respecting your husband open some verbal communication channel between yourselves, and from respecting him you'll start learning how to love again.
About loverboy Andy, sweetie, his just telling you what you want to hear, this old Kelly don't say, making you feel sexy and young, on top of the world, world class thing, yep, face the facts, you don't need a drama in your life.
Reality Check..... If you Dump Kelly, it will take you at least a year and half to finalize a divorce, not mentioning you might not afford it, then he'll fight for custody of the kids and with your track record the chances are slim for you to get it, and you think loverboy who lives 6hours away will be there all the way, not talking about his problems you don't know about him because you've never met the guy.
Grow up, don't throw away 11years of your life just like that. look at your kids, are you being a real role model as a mum???????????

Answer 3

Okay, first of all, you really need counseling. I'm not saying that to be mean but you really do to help work out your issues. Second of all, Kelly is right. A guy that has never actually met you does not love you. He is just saying that to sleep with you or to mess with your head. Third, you DO NOT love Kelly. If you did, you wouldn't be posting yourself as single on myspace. And finally, you really need to get some counseling so you can stop putting your kids through this horror. Do it for them and yourself. Good luck.........

Answer 4

You need to dump this Andy guy, and I agree.....he only wants to get into your pants. Another thing....where are your priorities? If you leave with this man, what about your husband and your kids?
If you don't like this man, do you really think Kelly will take you back, and if he does, do you think he'll ever trust you again? You need to make a choice.........not afterwhile, but right now. Either you're going to commit to your family, or this man...who you really don't know. If I was you, I'd sell the computer you're reading this on. Think about this...........prioritize.

Answer 5

Dear I think you need to get rid of every avenue that gives you an opportunity to cheat. If your marriage means anything to you, I think it is VERy fair to your husband that you get offline totally. Your lucky that he is still there. It isn't fair for him to have to keep dealing with your online affairs and others that you have leaned on for no apparent reason. Your husband seems supportive and longsuffering for sure. You are living in a fantasy world that you have created with your lies. You need to face reality in yourself, and work on you before you can work on your marriage. Cause you have deep issues that you aren't dealing with and you keep ignoring them, with time consumers. Such as other men. Please respect your husband and take the time to see the help you need, rather it is counceling from past or whatever, that can help you deal with current issues, and help you to make better decisions in the future. Your husband deserves it, your children do, and you do. Don't be someone elses pawn in the game. Goodluck!

Answer 6

First of all our husband is right this Andy guy doesn't love you he doesn't even know you and you don't know him. your acting as if your living with an a drunk maniac, but you said it yourself your hubby has a heart of gold. Try not talking to this Andy and spend more time with your husband and your children

Answer 7

you need professional help. to me your trying to get something from these strangers you meet on the net that your not getting from your husband. the Internet is useful when its used in a healthy manner. you need to stop going on line until you fix whats going on in your relationship. what you are doing to"Kelly" is wrong. go see a counselor if you don't have insurance most will work with you on a "sliding scale" based on your income. i will pray for Kelly

Answer 8

If you truly love someone you have been with for 11 years with whom you have even had children, you would marry them.

You are afraid of committment. You already have a family. Make it official. Don't try to run from responsibility.

Answer 9

i think you are bored with your husband and this guy gives you excitment.. i would bet my last dollar that this excitment would go away soon after you got with him if you did... you are a mean and uncaring person and very unhappy and you wont ever be happy until you get so sick and tired of your nasty self. no man can ever make you happy. that is up to you... get drugs if you have to and if youre already on drugs then you are on the wrong ones...

Answer 10

i did the internet thing and left a man that loved me for someone else i thought loved me, well guess what, i was nuts too.. i was unhappy in my marriage and thought someone new would make it all better but guess what he didnt... it turns out that the internet man i wanted didnt really want me after he got me.. some men are so horny that they dont care whos lives they destroy for some sex or they are just a lonely and depressed as women are and looking for someone to save them just as we do.. why did you ask us if you dont care what we think???? i think youre mad because we didnt tell you to go be with andy... i think you need to fix your head just as i need to fix mine. no one else can do it for us... our happiness is up to us not someone else.. least i did learn something..