My sister-in-law always seems so negative about my pregnancy?

Question

She says that I should skip pre-natal classes because they are a waste of time. Since I got pregnant she has been so critical of when I started wearing maternity clothes, she thought I started too early (but they are so comfy) She thought I was showing too early etc... It seems she always has something negeative to say. What is the deal? Do you think she's jealous or what? Has anyone else had a friend or family member act this way? We are really pretty close and don't want to confront her and have our relationship suffer, but jeez!!!

Answer 1

First off, you are not responsible for making others happy and if she's being negative about your pregnancy then she's unhappy about something. Don't EVER let anyone take away the magic of being pregnant from you. There is nothing wrong with being excited about having a baby and you should absolutly go to those classes! They really are helpful! At least those women won't be critical of you!
Try and see the situation for what it is. She is being inmature and nothing she has to say should have any effect on you!
Don't give her that power! You need to really enjoy pregnancy!
Good luck!!!!

Answer 2

Sounds like she is a little jealous...who cares when you start wearing maternity clothing?? Like that is a big deal?? If you want to go to pre-natal classes then go. Just ask her to keep her opinions to herself and stop acting like a huge know-it-all. As for showing early...every woman is different and experiences pregnancy different.

Answer 3

does she have kids of her own? can she get pregnant? i often find reactions like this come from people who have a hard time conceiving, or cant have babies. sounds like she is also jealous, maybe just cause your getting a little more attention right now, which is to be expected. pregnancy is an exciting thing and if shes being this negative i would stay away from her for a while or try and talk to her about how you feel about her comments, don't let anyone ruin this great time in your life. congrats and good luck!

Answer 4

Is she a mother? If so than that has a lot to do with it. Most women that already have children of their own think they know everything there is to know about pregnancy and baby's. But every pregnancy and experience is different. Next time she makes you feel this way let her know you appreciate her advise but you can handle it on your own. I personally know what it feels like to have someone tell you your getting too big or "she was BIG when she was pregnant". Trust me I've been through it. I told my husband that if anyone has any remarks like last time i would knock them out! Of course it may be my hormones but it can be very hurtful. I think he told everyone to watch it around me because no one has yet to have any negative comments. Sometimes you have to speak up or others think they have control over everything you do.

Answer 5

Tell her you appreciate her input and that you're sure you'll need her expertise at some point down the road, but that right now you're doing just fine. If it continues, you need to point out to her that YOU are the one who is pregnant, not her, and you have every intention of making sure that you are the most informed mommy you can be... and this includes taking the classes and reading the books that she might feel are a waste of time. Some people are just so negative and judgemental that they suck the life right out of you. Don't let her ruin this experience for you. You'll never have another one like it.

Answer 6

My cousin is this way not just with thepregnancy thing! I've had two misscarriages and am now 5 weeks pregnant. The first time I told her she asked me if I was going to keep it and when I said yes she told me I was dumb! I haven't told anyone about this one yet but I'm sure it will be something negative. She's also told me on more then one occassion that I should leave my boyfriend of 3 years when he's a wonderful guy and our whole family loves him. I think she's just not happy with herself and her own personal life. She dated a guy for 3 years who she admitted she knew was not for her and he ended up leaving her and ever since she's been this way so I think she's just not happy!

Answer 7

do not worry too much about what she has to say...if you can try to avoid her you do not want negative people around you that can put you down...remember that anything can make you cry at this precious time..But it does seem that she is jelous or your pregancy....is she able to have babies, has she had a miscarriage, or is she the type of person that is always getting the attention and for the first time she isn't the one getting all of the attention. Do what ever makes you and your partner feel comfortable. Plus there really isn't bad with showing to early, women show at different times...for example with my first child i was showing at 3 months....and some women show as late as 7-8 months...it verys from woman to woman and child to child.

Answer 8

If your OBGYN doesn't tell you there is anything wrong then your fine. I was measuring 40 weeks at 6 months,and my doctor said it was normal. As for your pre-natal classes, if you want to take them,then take them! They are very informative and you will get to meet some soon to be mom's that you can talk to and bond with.I can't say if she's jealous or not,but you don't need any negative emotions right now.

Answer 9

Just ignore her, when she has something negative to say just change the subject or straight up tell her. "Hey, you know what you may think it is too early to wear maternity clothes, but they are comfortable and that is what I want to be right now.'' Sounds to me she doesn't know how to give constructive criticism, I wouldn't worry too much about it. As long as you are comfortable and everything is fine with your baby, don't worry about what other people say and think. Congrats and Good Luck.

Answer 10

I know I kind of acted like that for while after my miscarriage. At that time, 9 people around me were pregnant, so it kind of felt like God's cruel joke on me. No matter how hard I tried to be happy for them, things I truly didn't mean would slip out. She might have some fertility issues, which is the sort of thing most people don't talk about. Just try to be understanding, and try not to rub your pregnancy in her face (I'm not accusing you of doing this, but just in case).