Birth Control ( Women only please)?

Question

After my wife had her IUD removed years ago, so we could try to
have a baby. Anyway the marriage is not going well. we have not been active for a very long time. I saw a bill saying she had it put back in. Is this neccessary for health reasons? or is she maybe cheating on me???

Answer 1

There is no medically necessary reason for this. I am sorry your marriage is not going well. Either she is cheating, or just DOES NOT want to have kids with you. The fact that she never bothered to tell you that she was getting it put back in is alarming to me. I don't want to jump on the "she's cheating" bandwagon, but I do think it's a little suspicious. I would confront her about it. Really, if you are not having sex with her at all, or it's VERY infrequently, what is her reasoning...and why wouldn't she tell you!?

Good luck

Answer 2

Maybe she's questioning whether or not she's ready for a baby or thinking that she better get back on it just in case you guys do have sex more often because she's not sure the marriage is going to last or maybe like you said... she is cheating. I'm not sure that an IUD has any health benefits, but I don't know, maybe possibly for cramping if she has heavy cramping.

If you really want to know her reasons, just ask her. Tell her that you're concerned that she might be looking outside the marriage for attention instead of solving the issues you guys have. DON'T BE ACCUSING!!!, but simply ask without malice or accusations.

Good luck to you!

Answer 3

Do not jump hastily to the conclusion she is cheating just yet. Maybe the fact that your marriage has been rocky caused her to rethink bringing a child into the mix just yet. If the two of you aren't getting along then bringing a child into such an enviornment might not be the best idea. This could be what her reasons are. On top of that certain forms of birth control do help to decrease the chances of certain cancers, they are also helpful during a woman's cycle, it helps with the pain, discomfort, length, etc.... I wish you good luck in your marriage, marriage is never easy, but if this is the only sign you have that has led you to believe she is cheating then i would not jump the gun on that just yet. I am betting on my first guess in this case, but remember i only came to such conclusions based on the info you have given. Talk to her about it, if your marriage is worth saving and she truly loves you, then she will want to work this all out as well.

Answer 4

Let me tell you, I think she has so many reasons for why she probably put it back, In my case, My husband wants to have another baby, but I don't want to right now. H is eager to be a dad for second time, I was going to take pills without his permission and so I didn't hurt his feelings, I just wanted to prevent a baby, I wasn't ready and I am still not ready yet, But I know I should talk to him and let him know, May be with your wife, she might still feel not ready at all and she doesn't want to hurt your feelings if you are the one who wants the baby, Do you know what I mean? Why don't you ask her, in very soft way, if she wants to get pregnant or not, and then you go from there. I don't know if she cheats on you or not, But I think this is a matter if readiness more than cheating. I hope you get this solved, Sincerely, Laura

Answer 5

I'm a guy but I could not resist the question. An IUD or any foreingh object is rarely or never necessary in your body. If she put it back on is because she doesn't want to become pregnant. Wether she is cheating or not is another story. Maybe maybe not. If you want to find out then track her phone calls and her money spending. All calls come in a bill telling you the time and the number. You can always check the bank account online. Be suspicious of odd phone numbers and odd spending habits. Especially if the spending is about things to make herself look beter. Also, watch her behavior.

Good luck.

Answer 6

It's possible that maybe she realized that if you are constantly fighting and not having sex, that it's not the time to bring a child in to your relationship. Do you still have sex on occasion? It could be she decided not to tell you about her decision for fear it would cause a fight. An IUD is not, however, a health necessity. You should talk to her about it and suggest counseling. Maybe the real problem is that she doesn't feel she wants kids... or that you want them. Instead of fighting, sit down and talk to each other in an non accusatory manner, give each other a chance to come clean about things... and you better be willing to give too.

Answer 7

there are no health reasons for having an IUD. she maybe just doesn't think right now is the right time to have a baby with you if you guys are not getting along, or, could be the cheating thing.

Answer 8

When did she put it back in? She may have put it back in hoping to get the marriage back up and running. It doesn't necessarily mean she's cheating on you. You could ask her outright or watch her more closely, but having an IUD put back in is not a good enough reason to suspect cheating. you need more "proof".

Answer 9

If the marriage is not going well she might want to work things out with you before she conceives. The IUD doesn't mean she's cheating.

Answer 10

Hmmmm. Well you say yall haven't been active for a very long time so she is either getting ready to leave you and is preparing for the single life or indeed she might be thinking about cheating. I can't say I blame her either way depending on why yall aren't having sex.