Have any of you ever felt like this?

Question

I am blessed and everyone tells me I am doing great but it is hard for me to accept complimnets I am very hard of myself and have trouble forgiving myself for the wrongs I have done. I just feel I am not doing enough or being enough. I just want to feel happy and content my needs are not many my wants are not exgravant. I have suffered from mental illness. How can I love my self in a godly way and accept the things that I simply cannot change?
How have you come to terms with feelings of inaquecy?

Answer 1

The most important thing anyone can do is love themselves and, no, it isn't selfish to do that, it's essential. We can't love anyone else until we first love ourselves. We have to experience how it feels to be loved in order to love. Simply love yourself, no matter what you've done in the past. We're all doing the best we know how at any given time and if your best was less then than it is now, bless yourself. Many say to forgive yourself... Better to love yourself [which includes owning up to simply being human].

You mentioned God so I'll quote this: God Doesn't Make Junk. In seeing ourselves as less than worthy we're, in a sense, spitting in God's face. Some grew up in what's called a shame-based environment so were programmed to feel unworthy, early on. It's far healthier to see ourselves as worthy, making a contribution to society in whatever way works for us, and enjoying the process.

You might want to see if this helps: Find a picture of yourself at a very early age [or a magazine photo that reminds you of yourself] and hang it on your fridge or tape it to your mirror. Look at it each day, several times a day when you can, and tell that younger you how much that child is loved... by you, now. It can take up to 30 days to rewrite inner scripts [reprogramming others' shoulds] so be patient with yourself. As you tell the child in the photo you truly love it, feel that love... let it flow through from your heart... as if it was your own child [or your pet, another child]. Doing this works.

If you were the child of royalty, would you feel inadequate? Aren't you a child of The King? That's another quote from a lovely lady who was reminding a colleague to own up to his sincere beliefs.

This is another effective tool: Envision a book you've starred in; it's a book about you - the good, the bad, the ugly aspects of you. Take that symbolic book [or a real one, representing it]. Close it and put it on a shelf. It will always be there to review, if needed, yet you needn't read it over and over. You've lived it. You know it by heart. Then, open a new symbolic book - clean pages, hasn't been written yet... You're writing this book, beginning with now... Only what brings you joy is to go into this book, however, as this is your life. Your desire and intent is to live joyfully from now on.

Some things aren't meant to be changed - they're to be accepted as simply part of your adventure, living this life. There's always a way to sprinkle them with humor, making lemonade from lemons and seeing the glass as half full, not half empty. It's a changing of our minds, sometimes, to do that. Yet it's possible for everyone, once they decide to enjoy every aspect of their experience. It is healthy to choose what brings us joy and let go what doesn't. It applies to things around us, relationships or painful memories.

Answer 2

I am like that. Sometimes I look at other people for assurance, and sometimes for competition. This is a false way of living life. I had to understand, the world does not revolve around me or my actions. I used to think that if I tried my best everything will fall into place, but life does not cater to such planning. I learned that even though things do not turn well in my favor, there is a message behind it all. Try NOT to measure yourself against others.

You need to treat your daily activities as if they are tokens. Give to charity, help out a child, involve yourself in meditation, or anything relaxing. Imagine people at the lowest point in their lives and find out what keeps them moving. You are not perfection and you will never be, but as long as you are feeling uplifted, no one can take that from you and dont let it be stolen either. Love yourelf and put no one above you for a while and write about these things. It helps.

Best of wishes my dear!!!

Answer 3

You are just a perfectionist. That is all, you should try to let go of things you want to be perfect. relax a little, let things fall where they belong, don't take it so seriously in many ways

Answer 4

Hardly ever.