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I know I had to break with my boyfriend of 11mo. It was an emotionally abusive relationship. He was bad for me in many ways. We were good friends and lovers at times, which kept things a float. I remain strong in the decision it is best for me to move on. Now I am living alone for the first time, in the apt we got together 2mo ago (lived together 6mo). I am surrounded by stuff that is his or was once ours. Which I will be modifing soon. Last night was my first night there, stayed with my parents for a week prior till he left. We do not talk civil. We have debt together in which I am going to wash in order to avoid him.

I am having a hard time shutting my mind off with this situation. Although I know it is for the "best".... I can't sleep, I am eating everything, my mind is going "crazy"...

Any suggestions or ideas on coping mechanisms in order to move on from this situation in a healthy manner?

2007-01-29 08:40:54 · 3 answers · asked by LifeIsPassion 2 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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I was definately there once! In a bad way! There is no easy way. Try to remind yourself of the bad and not the good, because in the end....mental abusive is a horrible situation to be in. I still struggle with overcoming it everyday. Keep busy, do projects - all those things that are there reminding you...sell or donate. Fix up your apt different. Paint a wall, get a new bedspread....little by little make it all you...I use to keep going back because I missed the "comfort" and I hated the beginning of new relationships. It never worked! everytime I went back, reminded me of why I left! Waste of time. Join a gym, or everytime you think of eating or crying~Run....that was always and still is an anger/stress reliever for me. Surround yourself with positive people. I understand where you are at....I had an awful breakdown and I would do anything to get all that time of what I thought was "insanity" back...because now....I found what I always hoped he would have become!

2007-01-29 08:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy 1 · 0 0

Change your routine...instead of coming straight in from work, go to a gym or take some classes. Go out with some friends to places you've not been to for a while. If you can't redecorate the apartment, change it...move the couch across the room, take down some pictures or move them to another room. Rearrange your bedroom. If you and your Ex were in the habit of watching TV, listen to the radio, or read. You have to break out of the cycle you had with him and do your own thing.

2007-01-29 16:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0 0

I guess the best thing to do now is wait. Give yourself time to heal. Whatever you do, DON'T jump into another relationship. I myself am going through a similar situation, except that I haven't managed to get my boyfriend to move out of our apartment. How did you do it?

2007-01-29 16:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by FunnyValentine 2 · 0 0

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