I've had this very good girl friend for a few years now. We're both still in college. Over time, we got really close, and spent a lot of time with one another. Last april, I told her I believed our friendship was hiding something a little more deep. Her answer was negative. It hurt but I believed It would helo make things clear. Few days later, things went back to normal, she started calling again almost everyday, and we spent even more time together. Ultimately I started to see things less clearly and went back to that hopeless doubtful situation. Since mid-december, I decided to put some space between us. I also noticed what could be an interest for one of my buddies. I dont think hes interested but I dont want to be caught up in the middle. So, since then, I almost havent spend a single minute alone with her. Whenever I see her however, she throws herself at me. She keeps on calling me almost every day, and I started not returning her call. Didnt work, she still calls.
2007-01-29 08:26:33 · 4 answers · asked by popov 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What I wanna know is whether I should explain it to her again. Shes a good friend and I get the feeling she thinks im snobbing her. All I want is some time alone to move on and look at other opportunities. Is it that hard to understand?
Thx
2007-01-29 08:27:45 · update #1
What do you mean she cant have me?
2007-01-29 08:38:41 · update #2
thx for ur answers. I know I need to clarify things. We never talked person-to-person about any of this. I took the risk through an email a while ago. And I dont know if I should take her interest as an excuse to declare my feelings to her again or if I should just tell her I need time alone.
2007-01-29 08:56:24 · update #3
You need to start dating other women. Then, call her back when she wants to see you and tell her that you can't make it because you have a date with another woman. Tell her that if she wants a "date" with you, you can cancel the other date. Otherwise, let her know that you have needs, and she is not fulfilling them, and you have your own set of priorities.
2007-01-29 08:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe things are beginning to get more clearer to her...
You must keep talking to her about your feelings...sometimes, people are scared to fall in love because of their sad pasts but I believe if you have genuine interest in her, all will be well...
You wont lack the right words to tell her and woo her...
Goodluck Mahn..
2007-01-29 16:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by manpo2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I think you should just explain it to her.
2007-01-29 16:39:41 · answer #3 · answered by m cheryl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She wants you know that she cant have you.
2007-01-29 16:32:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋