Why do so many people believe that homosexuality is a choice?

Question

Could it be that these people may have had homosexual desires and are speaking from experience? Please enlighten me.

Seriously, I wonder if most people maybe when they were young or perhaps in college had some sort of homosexual fling. Not saying I believe in Freud’s theory regarding homosexuality that we were all born bisexual and that gay people are narcissist (or something like that). I just speak from experience that when I was young I had many gay flings with several guys whom are now married or consider themselves straight. So again I ask perhaps the reason so many people believe it is a choice is because they had a homosexual encounter and are very shamed because of it. They think that because they overcame their own gay experience that this must mean that gay people choose to stay gay. .

Answer 1

Because they are stupid. Anyone who isn't in blatant self denial should understand attraction to another person isn't a choice. They're stupid enough to think that just because they didn't enjoy being gay for a day that other people wouldn't either.

Answer 2

I don't choose to be straight, I just...am. It's like being a woman. I was born this way, and there was no choice involved. You can choose to be celibate or sexually active or to date whomever but not in a sexual way...but there's no choice about an orientation.

That idea just seems bizarre, like homosexuals turn on some switch or something that changes the way they think and feel. It just IS, there's no choice! Straight people don't make a choice, and if they say, well, I had gay tendencies, but then I "chose" to be straight, then they're GAY people having STRAIGHT sex! You can choose whatever behavior you want, but you can't choose your orientation.

It's strange how people can't realize what they choose and what comes naturally. Are they that disconnected from their minds and bodies? How do they not know the difference?

Man, people are weird sometimes. Deluded and weird.

Answer 3

Most evangelical Christians and homophobic bigots (note these are not two distinct and separate groups; they have significant crossover) INSIST that being gay is a choice.

Because if it is NOT a choice, then one of three things would have to be true:
- God is OK with gay people, despite what the Bible says
- God is cruel in creating something he hates
- God doesn't exist

Using "Bible logic," being gay MUST be a choice, because all the other options are taken by evangelical Christians as obviously untrue.

No amount of science on the topic of homosexuality will shift this belief for these people, either. Even when science eventually conclusively proves homosexuality is inborn, they will deny it and call it junk science and/or secular lies.

Why? Because the alternative would be to stop hating and actually start loving (in the Christian sense) gay people, and that would make their little worlds would come tumbling down around them.

Answer 4

This is a very touchy subject amongst the gay community. A hot topic of debate. Many people think this is NOT a choice & its something ingrained at birth. Others believe that it is a choice made later on in life. Here is what i personally believe: We were all born asexual. No one was born gay. No one was born hetero. As infants, new borns, toddlers, we arent aware of our innate sexuality because we do not have one! I did not come into this world with an attraction towards women. Nor men. I came into this world innocently. Then we grow older. Mature in our tastes. We start to have preferences. Likings & dislikings as we have the chance to experiment with life. (not necessarily sexually, but just interacting with both sexes generally) This is when we come to terms with ourselves and what we need/desire sexually. I began to realize my liking towards women around 10 yrs old. Before that was too early for me to tell because my sexuality had not yet fully developed. Then by the time i turned 17, i consciously made the CHOICE to identify myself as a lesbian and to accept that i love women. It was a choice.

Answer 5

I am straight and I believe that most homosexual behavior is a result of biological urges that are genetic and not choices. Same idea goes for heterosexual behavior.

However, I also believe that there are some who choose to explore homosexual behavior out of curiosity and in some cases because of their environment and other circumstances.

It could also be that their is a gene for bisexuality or something that causes one to be more sexually flexible.

All in all it is mostly genetic and some is a result of learned/social/experimentatious behavior.

Answer 6

I think in some cases its chosen and some its not....I have friends who knew when they were 9 and 10 years of age however there is the whole gray area of people who try it maybe cause of bad marriages or just out of curiosity and decide to live a gay lifestyle...I know most people dont agree however it happens all the time ....I do however ( speaking from experience ) beleive you can change from straight to gay lifestyle but never change from gay to straight ...once you experience it theres no going back....its called liking your own equipment....its natural..

Answer 7

Simply put: ignorance

How straight people can say they are born staright because they know they were, but disbelieve a gay person for saying the same thing, shows a will-full ignorance that defies reply.

Answer 8

I find that alot in the Bible Belt. I think media has given a lot of hype to the famous type who experiment and then go back to their str8 way of life.
It seems to come down to the religious view ad the fact that God made us so he must have made you str8. You must be the one that decided to buck the system and go gay. That's the feeling I get from the religious sect.

Basically, they don't know what they're talking about and it's best if you learn how to let it go. You won't be able to change their minds as best I can tell from my experience. Better to live right with yourself than spend your life in conflict with yourself.

Answer 9

It's a piece of religious dogma within more conservative churches. They teach that even if people tell you that they were always gay, they are lying. Some of the churches go so far as to teach a global gay conspiracy involving every gay person on the planet. I actually knew a young man who believed that (when I met him) -- he stopped believing it in due course. I needled him unmercifully about it. I asked if he knew where my gay conspiracy newsletter had gone, and things like that. He finally recognized that it was silly.

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Answer 10

Maybe they did have homosexual desires, you never know. I think everyone has at least one time an attraction to the same sex, its something pretty natural actually. Our body is still a huge mystery to us all uh?