my new husband jo is a very devoted/supporting dad/exhusband.jo promised hi ex they would raise thier only child tom together after the divorce.because of this jo maintains daily contact(phone,email ect)with his ex regarding everthing from sports/school activities to what tom ate for lunch.its not unlike her to call jo for 20 mins to tell him what she and tom did for the day.i understand jo does not what to miss out on anything with his son but tom is 7yrs old and old enougth to tell his dad what he did.i feel like hes still married to her just not living with her.this would not bother me much if his ex was not so bitter to me and except me.she had made it very clear i will never be part of her "family unit"and wants me to have nothing to do with toms life as i'm not really family.since jo's life revolves around his son it is hard for me not to be involved.jo will not back me on any of this as he says its her right as a mom to decide what i can an can't do regarding tom and if he stands up for me it will only make it worse for tom.
2007-01-29 08:24:00 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should sit down and tell him how you feel. and tell him just that his son is old enough to tell him his-self. Ask if he could just talk to his ex about up coming events in his sons life or things like that and let his son tell him about his day. not her. Because you are feeling like the second person in your relationship.
2007-01-29 08:38:50 · answer #1 · answered by mandimaydowhatshepleases 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should move on and find a supportive non-involved husband. Because if you two ever decide to have a family your child would not be able to meet his brother because of the ex or is your hubby going to have all the time in the world for his first child but not the second? Obviously your hubbys doesnt realize his son is old enough to tell him directly what he is up to. If you are his family now (because you are his wife) then you should be part of his childs life. If he cant stand up for what is right then you married a wimp and your going to be in this situation forever. Its up to you if you want to be treated like that or not.
2007-01-29 10:17:26 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋