I was always dependant on someone else to make my bed, do the dishes, do my laundry, and worst of all for my sense of self. It is easy to feel great when someone is telling you every five seconds how wonderful you are. Now it is so difficult to find my own voice. But then i'll be happier because my self-confidence will be my own! However, its not perfect...I'm not whole, I depend on people for my self-worth just like I depended on my family.
Other than than I have a great Career that I love and great friends although I don't get to see them that much.
Can you please offer me some advice. I greatly appreciate your help :)
2007-01-29 08:14:07 · 5 answers · asked by Rachel T. 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Some say I act like a kid.......but I think that I am responsible. I'm getting a part time job while I go to school I was on my own and had an apartment but most concerning to me is the "GETTING MY OWN SENSE OF SELF WORTH" as it was always fed to me?
Thanks :)
2007-01-29 08:16:02 · update #1
Life is a teacher. We are all on the same path just at different stages. Most of what I learnt in life I learnt the hard knocks method. Be yourself. Don't expect anything from others but don't loose your humanity. Life is a teacher.
2007-01-29 08:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by solisue 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You kind of have your own answer. Day-by-day, step-by-step, you're doing things to prove to yourself that YOU CAN. Each success at a job, at school, will bring you more and more confidence. At the same time, you will definitely have many failures. The thing to realize is that we all have failures. And you need to take ownership (not the same as blame) for them. Instead of beating yourself up, learn from the experience. There is power in knowing that you made the mistake and you have the power to chance how it'll go down in the future.
Don't make excuses for yourself. Make the bed. Do the dishes. Revel in the feeling of success when you come home and notice that the bed is made and YOU were the one that did it.
It's OK to have friends and to seek "approval" from others, as long as you don't RELY on it.
Give it time. You'll slowly build a more "complete" you, that has a little more confidence, a lot more skill, and a better ability to pick the right paths.
The other thing: you're not alone or unusual.
2007-01-29 16:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jay 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This happens a lot of times when people are so sheltered...
just like babies, they depend on their parents for everything from changing their diapers to feeding them..
A little older is when the problem comes. Parents (and I am to blame for this too)
It was easy for me to make my kids beds, doing the dishes myself, etc but this does not help the child..
If you have learned how to do these things, then apply it to your life now. I don't know how old you are but you are never too young to learn..
Just apply yourself, make decisions. In desicion making you will fall and make mistakes but that is how life is. We learn from mistakes and we get up and start over...
You don't need to depend on others for your self worth. God made you special and we DO NOT have to please others to be accepted. Just do the best you can and you will go far in life.
Blessings~
2007-01-29 16:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by karen_03625 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep trying to do things on your own & challenge yourself, when you did something right, even something small. Congratulate yourself. Acknowledge that you did it on your own. Hey it is awesome that you're trying. If you need light hearted inspiration watch Friends, Rachel never did anything on her own either.
2007-01-29 16:33:48 · answer #4 · answered by shouldbworkn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOu need to experience life on your own.
2007-01-29 16:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋