I am not into porn. is that normal??
2007-01-29 08:10:40 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you are normal. Most girls i have ever been with aren't that into it. I only know a few girls that really like it.
2007-01-29 08:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by joshjones007 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most women don't go for most types of porn.
Standard porn is quite male-centric - the big finish is the guy shooting his load all over the woman like a lawn sprinkler. It's also filmed too close to certain body parts, and some porn is actually degrading to women (gag and throw up but keep giving me head -- bleccchh!).
So, no, it's okay not to like that.
Perhaps you two could try 'couples' adult films - they are shot from farther back during sex, there's no "hey let's get an extended peek at that birth canal" camera angle, and they are more about 2 people making love, not can I pin her ankles behind her head and ram her ceaselessly.
Andrew Blake is a director makes nice, classy adult films. Try some of his stuff. Or go to an adult shop and ask.
Whatever you select, you need to let him know that the gross stuff (and it really is gross) turns you completely off in a major way. Suggest a replacement and I hope you do like it since watching the good ones together can really be fun!
2007-01-29 09:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would depend upon how much porn your husband watches... an hour or so once a week is probably not a problem --- guys always think with their little heads anyway... But it you are talking: coming home from work, watching it until 2a, day after day, weekends too, then, hon, that's addiction, and porn addiction isn't even treatable --- ask any counselor. And as an addict (of anything) those people are already in a relationship, it just isn't with you..
2007-01-29 08:19:55 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maria, most women are not into porn. You're normal but by the same token, so is your husband! The majority of men, married or not, are into the visual stimulation that porn offers, besides, it's a release valve for all the sexual energy we have. Are you in the mood 24/7? Are you in the mood 2-6 times a day? Do you perform all the sexual activities he's interested in? No, right? I thought so! so why not let him enjoy his porn. Let him watch it as long as he wants as long as it does not interfere with your normal sex life. women tend to be so over the top on this issue that it makes me wonder if any of you know what it is all about.
2007-01-29 08:20:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You are perfectly fine and normal.
Here's some quotes from the Dr. Phil website:
It is not OK behavior. It is a perverse and ridiculous intrusion into your relationship. It is an insult, it is disloyal and it is cheating.
Consider how it makes your partner feel. If it makes your partner feel ugly, hurt, deceived, lied to or inadequate, then it needs to stop. If it is eroding your relationship, it's gone too far.
Pornography isn't real, it's a fantasy. It's makeup, beauty lenses, hair extensions, camera angles, lighting and silicone! It's also somebody's daughter who has taken a really, really wrong turn. She's demeaning herself, debasing herself, humiliating herself and she's being exploited by people who are funded by you. It is a sick, demented, twisted world. It's not healthy, it's not natural and it's not normal.
Viewing Internet pornography or engaging in cybersex is a short step to taking cheating to the next level.
You need to tell your partner that viewing pornography is absolutely, unequivocally unacceptable in your relationship. Draw a line: Your partner needs to choose between the pornography or the relationship.
2007-01-29 09:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normal is for a man to have or to take pleasure in his wife. If he likes porn movies, then he needs to get his heart and mind straight. Maybe he needs to learn to communicate his needs with you. If he wants you to do something special with him (as long as it is for the two of you to enjoy and not for the public and in a way that'd degrade you as a woman) then he should tell you about it.
2007-01-29 08:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by ironman 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're normal. Many women don't like porn. But I imagine you like sex don't you? Let your husband watch the porn with you around. Turn your back to the TV so you don't have to watch it, and get the ride of your life.
2007-01-29 08:15:50 · answer #7 · answered by I'm all yours 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's very normal. Society today has made porn acceptable, when really it is a discusting degrading thing. If you have a problem with it, tell him how you fell. If he won't stop, it's time to leave him because he doesn't respect you.
2007-01-29 10:18:38 · answer #8 · answered by xquis81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is normal for a woman. When my husband started watching porn I was like I would never look at it. One night I was feeling a little frisky and I have been hooked ever since.
2007-01-29 08:34:08 · answer #9 · answered by shay 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Men are visual beings, women need more physical affection to get aroused.... nothing wrong with you at all. But how about the two of you make your own homemade porn sometime? That might get you into it and maybe he'll prefer that over watching strangers do it!
2007-01-29 08:21:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's normal... I'm not into porn either (although I've been known to watch it on occasion). Not everyone is into it.
2007-01-29 08:16:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋