im 17 and i dont know what to do once get out of a group home/placement i have changed my life i have no mom?

Question

i had got in to trouble and went to juvnile hall. i went for about 2 years and changed i dont want to do drugs any more or do crimes. i want a better life. i dont know how to go about it. my mom does the same thing she did before .she is like 45 or something like that and is in jail for a year.she will never learn. its always been the same so i just need a parent to give me the right caring. by the way. i got takeing away from my mom and dad when i was 5 i dont know where my dad is there is more to that

Answer 1

hey just pray about it. nobody says your life is set in stone, i think you posting your story is a great start. i think God can set you in the right direction cause he already got you asking the right questions. start out with a job and alot of the right friends who want and encourage you to do the right things in life. and as always constantly pray, it will all work out with faith. i wish you all the best

Answer 2

You are remarkable. So many things were working against you, but you beat the odds. Don't ever let anyone tell you that you can't make something of yourself, because you already have proven that you have the courage and the strength to have a terrific life. The question is: do you want it? You sound like you really do.

You made some mistakes but that doesn't mean you can't start fresh. You sound like you are ready to do this.

Work hard. Go to school and work hard, get a part time job and don't be afraid to receive help. You need to be smart and get help from organizations and people in your community that are seriously concerned for you; not from thugs. Give it all you've got for the next few years and you will be get there.

Try to forgive your mom, even if she never changes; believe it or not, she is not well and you will feel better letting your anger for her go. It will be harder to start fresh if you don't.

At 17, you are strong and capable. I am not going to lie. It won't be easy and you will encounter people who will try to make you feel inadequate, but you will know better. On those days, you walk with pride and remember who you are. Don't let anyone put you down. You have your WHOLE life ahead of you. The specifics will come when you discover what you like. I take comfort in God, but that is really a personal choice.

Feel free to contact me if you ever just need to vent.

Answer 3

I'm not sure if you've ever had a job...some group homes encourage them and others don't. If you can work while you're in the group home, get a job now and save as much money as you can. Starting out on your own will be very expensive. Entry level positions usually include waitering, manufacturing, or cashiering. Waitering will mean having to deal with picky customers, but will pay pretty good. Manufacturing will be less people-focused, but will be tough work. Cashiering (or working in retail) usually doesn't pay very well. Find out if there are any public assistance programs that you'll be eligible for...they will vary based on where you live. Also, find someone who you feel you can trust who can give you guidance and advice--that's really important!

Answer 4

I'm sorry things have gone so badly for you, but I'm very proud of your attitude about it. I'm a mom, and even a Grand-Mom now so I will give you my honest opinion.

Have you considered the military? It's just a thought though. My son, when he was graduating from high school, didn't have a clue what he wanted to do. He knew he didn't want to go to college and do "school" for another 4 years, and he didn't even know what he wanted to go FOR. He brought up the military. He joined the Air Force and has been in since February 2002. He got job training in a field of his choice, he's gotten to travel free, and he has all sorts of benefits once he decides not to re-enlist. Even re-enlisting has tremendous benefits. My cousin retired after 27 years in the Air Force as Full Bird Colonel in charge of Special Investigations at the Pentagon. He's only 57 and is comfortably retired with plenty of security.

I know right now it's "war time", but if you choose the right military branch, and opt for the right field, you won't necessarily have to be in the line of fire. My son chose jet mechanics, and his job doesn't send him off base into unknown dangers.
If this is an option, I encourage you to talk to recruiters from all branches of service so you can make an informed decision as to which one would suit you best.

You do need to pick yourself up and fix your life, but you CAN do it. I only hope your mom can do the same thing before it's too late. I wish you the best of luck in life and want you to know there ARE people out here pulling for you.

Answer 5

First step to having the best life possible: focus hard on school. If you need extra help to feel confident in your classes, talk to your teachers after class and see if they can help you or get you a tutor. if you explain the situation to your favorite teachers or counselors at school they can help guide you and mentor you.

If your living situation is unhealthy - maybe there is a friend or family member you could stay with? Talk to the counselors at your school or in your program as well.

you can do whatever you want to do - you don't have to be dragged down by your mom. it's sad that she can't be there to support you, but you have to take care of yourself, and you sound smart enough to do that.

Work hard. Study Hard. Make a life for yourself by building up your base of knowledge. Learn as much as you can so you can find out what you are best at and what you like best.

Good luck!!

Answer 6

Make sure wherever you end up (Foster home) you treat that family with respect and love. You're going to need them. Then get your high school degree or GED. Then try to take some college courses while you work. It sounds like alot to have to do, but apparently and unfortunately you've seen the alternative. Good Luck to young man, you're going to do just fine as long as you stay clean and sober.

Answer 7

Please stay off of drugs. my advice to you is to get a job to keep busy, so you do go back to your old ways. I would apply for a job at a big supermarket chain such as Albertans, Von's, stater brothers etc. apply for the warehouse position NOT THE STORES. warehouse pays allot better, plus great benefits. I used to work at Von's produce warehouse sf springs ca. the starting pay is 15.00hr in a 1.5 years you will be making 23.50hr that is good pay its hard work. but your young. And they will always give kids who have a bad record a chance for employment. Good luck

Answer 8

I agree with the first post. Try to get an education and do yor best in life. God bless you.


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Answer 9

you are already headed in the right direction find someone that you look up to and admire and i'm sure they can help. don't look back if you have determination and faith you will succeed.