ok my brothers girl friend who is 20, gave me some shirts and other stuff but i dont really like them THAT much!! but she is my fav. compared to all his other girl friends !! and things r starting to get serious between them !! but i dont kno what to do w/ them, cuz i could sell them .... but if she asks me about them then im screwd !!! but if i give them back to her then she might think i dont like her ! (which i do )!! and i think it is important that she likes me if they ever do get engaged !! sooo what do u think i could do ??????
2007-01-29 08:00:57 · 69 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just tell her you love them and only wear them around the house when she comes to visit. Don't sell them yet. Let her see you wearing at least one of them a couple of times. Don't hurt her feelings.
2007-01-29 08:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by true blue 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Fold them and put them away for awhile. Perhaps wear one around the house if they are visiting. After a while you could probably donate them to a mission or salvation army. These things happen some times. It was the thought that counted. The other option would be to tell her very nicely that they really aren't your style and ask her if she would be offended if you traded them on something you could wear. That's if they are new of course. If they are used shirts then she might know someone else she could pass them on to. I think she would appreciate your honesty.
2007-01-29 08:05:56 · answer #2 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make the effort to wear the shirt you dislike the least, when next you see her.
And if she ever offers you any more clothes, tell her tactfully that your taste is a little different from hers. She's not going to hate you for this. Anyway, end of the day, if they do get married, she is either going to like you or dislike you irrespective of the "shirts incident". Not much you can do about that! But you sound caring, so I'm guessing she will like you as a sister-in-law.
2007-01-29 08:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by catfish 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just put them away for now. When you see her don't forget to mention how nice it was for her to give you such great things. I am sure some of the stuff you must like. So you wouldn't be lying. If she ever says I never see you in any of the shirts, just say you wore it the other day and she missed seeing you. tell her thanks again. Soon enough time will pass and you can give them away or sell them. She will never know. She may even say to you, that if you do not like any of the things, you can just give them away. Don't worry.
2007-01-29 08:09:36 · answer #4 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your brother and see what he has to say. Another option is if you really like her and you two get along is to just be honest and tell her that you appreciate the gifts but that they really aren't your style. Maybe you can suggest that you both go shopping together to return them and when you are picking out shirts that you do like she will get a better sense of your style. That way maybe next years gift will be something you can feel comfortable wearing.
2007-01-29 08:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by heatheranne102777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her. Tell her you tried them out but they just werent you. Be sure to thank her. Maybe you could ask if you could see if any of your friends might be interseted and if not give them back to her. Or not. I wouldn't get all worked up about them they are just clothes. She will be fine with that. She is probably very understanding and won't think you don't like her. You could say you still are interested in trying anything else she may have to give you also. ;)
2007-01-29 08:08:03 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not save them, and wear them around the house, when SHE comes over. That way, she thinks you like them. Tell her that you only want to keep one of them, cause you like it best. But, tell her that the others you just don't care for, but thought she was sweet to think of you. And then, wear the ONE in front of her sometime. It is not a big deal to not like something someone gives you. But, you are obviously a very sweet person and don't want to hurt her. Yet, if you don't tell her about not wanting some of them, then she will KEEP giving you stuff.
2007-01-29 08:05:51 · answer #7 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her that you tried them on and they don't look good on you and would she like them back because you are going to sell them otherwise. Just be that totally frank. Be sure to say you really appreciate the gift of the shirts in the first place. If you make sure you thank her and tell her how sweet it was to give them to you, she'll be okay with it.
2007-01-29 08:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all: take a DEEP breath, let it OUT!! breathe in, breathe out. BREATHE. ok? good. ok, now, well what I usually do with shirts that are given to me that i don't like is i just stuff them somewhere where i will forget about them..and that noone else can find. just pretend that the shirts are too small for you, just be honest with her. tell her, "i appreciate the gesture, but the shirts are not my taste." if you think she's gonna hate you just cause you hate the shirts, then she is not a good gf..and your brother deserves better than that.
2007-01-29 08:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by Firecracker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously just give em ack and be like they dont fit right, they're to small , seriously that'll make her feel good and take the problem away (even if it is a lie) i wouldnt sell them that may cuase problems at the very least just stick'em in the closet never to be seen again you dont actually have to wear them or anything do you? no! no you could just be gracious and let the whole thing go
2007-01-29 08:06:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the one or two that really aren't that bad, just in case. If she ever asks, be honest, and say, "I liked the black and grey one but the others didn't suit me/didn't fit." Then donate the rest of them to a charity or give them to other friends.
What a great girl she is for thinking of you though! Make sure you thank her.
2007-01-29 08:06:12 · answer #11 · answered by tami1215 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋