I have a boyfriend who I have been with for quite a while, the thing is there is somebody else on the scene don't see him very often and not been unfaithfull in anyway but my heart is so confused how do I know what I am supposed to do and how do I make sure I am not making the biggest mistake of my life in what ever I do.
Been feeling so down and everything lately and don't know if i think this might just be a way to escape and try something new.
Don't even know if the other guy likes me or not!!!!!!!
I sound like a teenager with a crush!!!!
2007-01-29 08:00:50 · 12 answers · asked by karen H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hi, your bored, feeling unloved, in a rut and want a fresh input of passion and attention. Now the way to do it spice up by spending more time one on one with the boyfriend and making time to do things together, and communicate tell him how your feeling as in lonly unloved etc, or dump him and live by the seat of your pants and on the wild side it works for some, but not all only you know what your comfort zone is, good luck xx
2007-01-29 08:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by suzie1968uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, I hear you! I know it really sucks when you find yourself in this situation, theres no easy or pain free solution!
Reckon the best thing you can do is think whether you are happy in your relationship, if not (and if you havn't been happy for a while), maybe its time to finnish it. If you ignore it, maybe the problem will go way, but chances are it could just get worse.
But don't base a decision on what could potentially happen with this other guy - 'cos if you leave your boyfriend in the hope of something happening and it doesn't, you could end up feeling like you made the wrong choice and feeling even more down. Maybe talk to the other guy (if you can face it!), or have a trial separation, or go somwhere else for a few days away from the situation and think.
2007-01-29 16:36:38 · answer #2 · answered by helen r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not ready for a serious commitment right now and your not listening to your internal self. That is why all the confusion is going on. Step back, take a good long look at yourself and where you are and where you want to be in a month from now. You don't have to break off with your boyfriend just slow down, be with some of your other friends or study a little more evenings. If you start feeling better about your life then break off with him. I wouldn't use another person as a reason for doing anything, especially not knowing how that person felt, also I look at "would I like to be left out because of another".
2007-01-29 16:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your boyfriend and see if you can bring back the old love you both had for each other. I've been with my husband for 4 years and still every day he makes me tingle inside. If you love him you will make changer's and so will he. This is what love is all about is keeping the love alive and doing stuff together to make it alive. If you think its dead and well done please dont keep in the relationship for the sake of it you wont be happy nor will he. Follow your heart hun xx
2007-01-29 18:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by janine e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're feeling like this because you've seen someone else you like then you should break up with your boyfriend. If you felt content and happy with him you wouldn't be looking at other guys. Leave him, have some space to yourself. In time, if it is to be with this other guy it will be. If it's not meant to be then one day the right guy will come along and you'll know it.
2007-01-29 16:07:11 · answer #5 · answered by whitney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to panic. Every option seems wrong. So every choice will feel wrong. So decide not to decide. That is a decision. Events will soon tell you. Relax. Remember there are no mistakes in life. Just choices.
2007-01-29 16:08:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay put - by all means be friendly with the other guy, and if anything happens then, and only then, make your decision. Have you heard the phrase "You can't have the cake AND the halfpenny" - it means once you choose your way you must stick to it.
2007-01-29 16:48:27 · answer #7 · answered by Modern Major General 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are having feelings for another guy, the person you are with is not the right person for you,, you need to finish things before you can move on and see if things will work with this new guy without,, this way you won't have guilty feeling..
if this fails the right man will come along before you know it..
2007-01-29 16:07:18 · answer #8 · answered by peachesandcream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww Its horrible feeling like that, try talking to your partner about how your feeling (not about the other lad) but about feeling down,try doing something diffrent together....be exciting...hope it works out for you!
2007-01-29 16:10:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it some flirting, whisper some naughty stuff in his ear and see what happens ;)
2007-01-29 16:14:47 · answer #10 · answered by Hot British Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋