Ok!!! so... my hubby and i have been married for 6 years now... and he wants a separation. we both know within our hearts we do belong together. right now he isnt happy with himself and i am not happy with myself. i am having a hard hard time feeling the rejection from him. HOW.. do i heal this hurt that i feel. i am 24 years old.. i have been with him since i was 16... what do i do? we are on good terms.. we talk and everything is good.. i have my own place he has his... i just dont know what to do to help me cope with this situation. he is also leaving for korea in the start of march so that will be easier for me too. we both arent sure if we want this to be permanent but how can i prepare myself for the time to come if it is permanent? any advice or help will be appreciated
2007-01-29 07:59:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your just scared of the real world you'll be fine............
2007-01-29 08:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a young divorced ex military wife, and I know how scary this can be! My advice would be to seek marriage counseling ASAP, give it a set time, 2 months it sounds like you have, once a week, and give it one more shot. If things work out, great! If not, unless you plan to remarry very soon or move away or something, why not stay seperated but still married while still receiving the military benefits (money!, insurance, etc), and divorce when he returns. It sounds like you have the space and your own place already, so give it another shot, and take it slow. You cannot divorce someone while they are overseas anyway, so again, either get on the ball, or try the counseling and give yourself some time to decide, save some money, etc.
2007-01-29 08:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by Burn to Shine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be separated when he leaves for Korea. During that time you will be forced to be independent and fend for yourself. Keep writing and calling each other, thereby staying in each others lives. If you cannot agree to go on with the marriage when he comes home, you will be well on the way to managing for yourself.
If the marriage does not continue you will have a grieving period which is perfectly normal, life goes on and you will be happy again with someone else in the future.
2007-01-29 08:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by madisonian51 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 06:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might work if there is not a third party involved. Sadly, alot of people look at "separating" as a justification to screw around while you a still married. You two were very young at the start. It might be good to have time away from each other.
2007-01-29 08:06:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the long way to a divorce. He has met someone else. Not that he will stay with but who is helping him get out of this. You are young and have no kids. GET OUT NOW while you are young enough to meet and marry someone else.
2007-01-29 08:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
95% of separations lead to a divorce - try some counseling before he goes - otherwise the strain of a deployment will irretrievably break up your marriage.... Good Luck
2007-01-29 08:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
right now I would take it one day at a time. and just keep yourself busy with friends. and hopefully you two will be back together if it was mean't to be. and at least you both are on good terms. good luck.
2007-01-29 08:04:56 · answer #8 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek help and counseling for you and this marriage....I feel it is worth trying to save and to restore... Give each other time and space and work on it.
2007-01-29 08:04:48 · answer #9 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will divorce, ,any time there is a seperation one or the other will cheat,, a seperation just means let me go sew my oats and screw other woman, then when I cant fnd anymore I will come back to you
2007-01-29 08:03:05 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well...instead of waiting for your husband...you can start to live life for yourself again. hang out with your friends...familly...
2007-01-29 08:09:13 · answer #11 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋