would you follow these rules ? wish my kids would?

Question

MUM'S RULES

1: I cook it, you eat it

2: I buy it, you wear it

3: I wash it,you put it away

4:I clean it, you keep it clean

5: I say bedtime, you say goodnight

6: I say off the phone, you hang up

7: I say no, you dont ask why

CAUSE IM THE MUM

not too harsh are they?

my boys are 10 & 15

I only cook what they like I mean Im not doing 2 meals
I know what clothes they want as they pick em
They go to bed at 9-00pm
when they ask for sumit or to go somewhere I tell them my reasons then say no

They are pleasent well mannered boys I can take them anywhere they also know yes,no,please and thank you

They talk to me about everything and we have big disscusions on just about anything

Im a widow raising 2 boys in glasgow I have to discipline

Answer 1

1.no

2.no

3.yes

4.yeah

5.depends wat day

6.yup

7.not really
nd thats coming straight from a 10 year old so i know all about the great mind of a kid!

Answer 2

Not harsh, but as a parent it has been my experience that in everything there is room for a little change. I have kids that honestly don't like a few of the things I have made over the years. Do I make them eat it every time I make it? No, but they need to at least take a bite. And for teenagers you have to expect a certain amount of "why" and "how come" and "why can't I" It is part of their maturing and growth for this to come. I have found after 6 kids that having a chore chart really helps along with positive reinforcement for the things they do well. In the same regard if a rule is broken they know they must pick from the consequence chart as well, and you know what, every consequence on there is usually something that I need done that is extra and above the usual, so it doesn't matter to me which one they pick. Prayers mum =)

Answer 3

No, not too harsh at all. Most of them are just common courtesy. Pick up after yourself and respect the work people do to take care of you.

However, as children grow up, I would give a little negotiating room for bedtimes. Teenagers, just like adults, have internal clocks. Everyone needs a different amount of sleep to function.

If they ask why, tell them. It's because the dress is too mature for you, or I don't like you listening to that cd. End of discussion.

The only one I have trouble with is the food. I think kids should be made to try new foods and eat a healthy diet. But if you know a child HATES a particular veggie, why cook it?
How would we, as adults, feel if we were made to eat a food we detested, because someone said so?


Keep up the good work!

Answer 4

I'm a mother, too, and here are my thoughts:
I have no problem with #'s 3-6. #1, what if you cooked something gross or something they just found distaseful? Everyone has likes and dislikes. I have taught my kids to just at least try everything. I never make them clean their plates.
#2: what if you buy something they really don't care for? Everyone should have the right to say what does and does not go on his/her body (within reason) including children (after a certain age). What if you have accidentally purchased something dorky? Should they still be made to wear it? Why not take them shopping with you to make sure there aren't any problems with what is purchased. #7: Within reason and as long as the question is put politely, I don't mind telling my children why I have told them no. It teaches them the reasons behind the rules that my husband and I have for them as well as helping them understand the values we want them to grow up with.

Answer 5

Umm .. SO I guess life is different for different cultures.. because..

those were the rules in my house

1) .. If my mom cooked.. we better eat.. or don't plan on eating for along time
2) of course.. she bought my clothes.. (until I got a job) and I wore them
3) when I was old enough to put my clothes away.. I was old enough to start washing them myself. I can't remember the last time my mom washed my clothes for me.
4) Well cleaning is apart of a childrens lifestyle.
5) Yeah if I argued.. that was a whooping
6) yeah .. or there would be no phone
7) yes that goes without saying.

Answer 6

1=i dint want that in the first place 2=why can i pick my own clothes out 3=i agree with this one 4= i agree 5=yea 6=i should have certain time limits 7= i like to know why so i can understand why no

Answer 7

I love those rules. I think that alot of parents are to lenient on kids now days. That's the problem with adults today. Not enough discipline growing up. Keep up the good work mom!!

Answer 8

Not too harsh at all, in fact I would change #4 to:" You clean it, and keep it clean or you clean it again!" But #7 is a little harsh in my opinion.... I think kids should be encouraged to ask questions! Even annoying ones. :)

Answer 9

If I didn't know any better, I'd say you were my mum.
The only difference, is that most of these were followed by a slap around the back of the head. You know for good measure.

Answer 10

Depends on the age of the kids. At some point there has to be a little room for debate and negotiation.

Answer 11

I followed them when I was a kid. Not to harsh. I broke a few but for the most part I followed.