My problem is that I notice that I get very nervous around men..especially men I'm attracted to or lthat seem to be attracted to me..I can't help it..Any suggestions as far as why this is happening and what can I do about it...because I think it's hurting me as far as dating wise,a dn it I'm tired of being seen as the "shy girl" How can I stop doing this
2007-01-29 07:54:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
It's normal, so go ahead and be nervous, but try to not to let it show too much because nervousness is contagious. What do girls do when they're nervous? They might giggle too much, talk non-stop, or pretend to be preoccupied with something that is obviously not interesting at all. Trust your intuition, trust yourself.
2007-01-29 08:17:12 · answer #1 · answered by Steve71 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way. I am not shy by nature, but when I get around a good looking dude that I dig.... I cannot look at him in the eyes. I usually say something clever and say 'see you later!'
And I analyze the whole scenario over in my head and realize what a big dork I must have been to him.
Sorry I cant' help you here, just noticed that I am not the only one.
2007-01-29 16:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by djzlyric 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply put, the guy is always more nervous. if you meet a guy thats too confident and it makes u even more uncomfortable hes a waste of time. I get really shy around girls, REALLY shy. I had to use notes to get through to my now girlfriend. some think its a lack of confidence on my part but really its me not trying to look like the typical guy making moves on girls, cause those guys suck. but being the girl you've got to know that us guys are always much more nervous, your gunna be fine.
2007-01-29 16:00:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anthony C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been shy also. As I grew I became more confident in myself- as I went to college I began to learn to treat women just like guys- so I became more comfortable with girls. I basically gave up on the idea of dating/ impressing girls for a while and just became friends with them....this helped me become comfortable with them. Maybe forget dating and just pretend like the guys are just girls- friends like your friends that are girls. Secondly, the greatest thing you can do is become more comfortable with yourself.
Also never feel you have to "be crazy" or "outgoing"- that will never work- instead, just grow in becoming more comfortable with yourself.
2007-01-29 21:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by DrThorne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. God made you special and you should be treated as such..
Be kind and considerate to others, even the men you meet and don't be afraid, they are just like you - humans..
Most of all, find someone who is worthy of you and your kind heart, don't let any man take advantage of you.
Add lots of humor in your daily regime, laugh and have fun, that is what life is for... Blessings~
2007-01-29 16:00:29 · answer #5 · answered by karen_03625 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get anywhere, you have force yourself to be more courageous when around people you like.
2007-01-29 15:58:50 · answer #6 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself and dont think about it then you wont have any time to think about being nervous!
2007-01-29 15:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋