she Yells and screams at me sometimes and i try my best to be good to her i want to leave but haven't found the heart yet because i keep thinking it will get better, and it does for awhile but always goes back to hell!!! Should i stay supportive of her and deal with her temper tamptrums or hit the bricks and start over? And by the way shes 36 im 24!
2007-01-29 07:54:00 · 21 answers · asked by dbone2you 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she lies constantly to me about off the wall stuff...i try hard to cope with her but she sometimes gets the best of me...i have no problem leaving but i do have love for her too she is a bad diabetic and she goes from happy to angry to sad in a snap of a finger...i made my vows i'm trying to live by them but i've about enough
2007-01-29 08:08:33 · update #1
she is probably uneasy about the age difference...its not a big deal until she feels old compared to you...she is probably worried about things you are not aware of....i have dated much younger men and after a while i feel like i outgrow them....i respect the fact that you are trying so hard to deal with her mood swings, sounds like your pretty mature as well, so maybe age isnt the problem, but you will have to find out what it is...cant just blame it on depression....thats too easy..it will never go away until it is solved
2007-01-29 08:00:09 · answer #1 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
What does age have to do with her depression?????
Was age a factor when you two were married???
Take her to a therapist, maybe her meds are not working or maybe she's having drug interactions.
You made a commitment, honor your vows:
"In sickness and in health"
If you choose not to honor those vows, then that's on you.
Did you know about her psychosis before you were married? If you didn't, that's on her and you should've done a background check. If you did, that's on you and you shouldn't have married her thinking that it was going to get better.
Do your husbandly thing and get her the help she needs, otherwise, cut your losses, get out, and don't get into a marriage situation again in the future without exploring all the facets of your potential life partner.
Good luck, kiddo....
2007-01-29 08:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact NAMI for help in locating a support group you can attend. You'll learn more about medications and how to help your wife. There's different groups that either you or your wife (or both) can attend. You need help to deal with the problem, so if you can't afford professional help, try your local health department clinic too.
2007-01-29 08:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by bobweb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all IF she truly has a mental disorder (and it's not called manic depression, it's called bipolar disorder) then SHE needs to be in counseling and/or on medication; and if you are having problems that you can't seem to resolve between the two of you, then you need to try counseling together. You took your vows, now live up to them!!
2007-01-29 08:02:10 · answer #4 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! Hold it Buddy! You are married to this lady. If she needs medical assistance because Manic Depression, would it not be up to you to keep her safe? Should she choose to go off her meds, you call the doctor! The day you married this woman, one of your vows I'M certain was to keep each other safe and secure-(sickness and in health?????????). You no longer have the right to walk away until you are certain she is safe and secure and under proper medical care. Good luck with your choices.
2007-01-29 08:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by truckermate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is not an issue here. If your wife is on medication and still continues her tantrums, then there is something wrong. When you said your vows, this was what they meant by "for better or worse". If you want to abandon her because she has a medical condition, then go ahead and be a jerk. Otherwise be the man you promised her you would be and stand by her. Go to counseling and consult another doctor for her care. Nothing is easy in this life and you have to do what you have to do. Thank you.
2007-01-29 08:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention if she is seeing a doctor or taking meds for her condition. If she hasn't tried to get help on her own, you need to actively encourage her to do so. And don't just suggest it and then forget about it. Actually make the appointment for her and drive her there. Then pick up the prescription together and help her through this. Show her that you are there for better/worse and will do anything to take care of her.
2007-01-29 07:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
oh sweatheart im so sorry..im manic depressive too and i used to do that with my family..trust me she is not in there, she is like, somewhere else entirely. She need meds, and maybe counseling. But you have to decide how much you love her and how deep your compassion is for her. Because she's not present at the moment. She needs to find her way back with your help. Seek a trustworthy doc/physichiatrist and see if you can talk to her about this.
2007-01-29 07:59:09 · answer #8 · answered by ariel 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like she has some deep dark issue's that are eating
at her, probably not U. You must let her know its really bothering
U before U simply leave. If she gets some counseling, it might
help her get over it. There is something bottled up inside her.
2007-01-29 08:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine went through the same thing,as did alot of my friends,if you satrt over,when they get a little older it will be the same thing,thats just women,some worse then others.Live through the next set of tantrums,flare up and mad if you need to just get through it.Then on a good day,talk her into going to the doctor with you,she probably has a hormonal imbalance due to the "changes of life" wich last from 30 to 60. ;o) If she gets on some hormone pill to equal her out,you will love her alot more,and she will calm down.I have seen it alot.
2007-01-29 08:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by klr_kevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋