Skipping School - College Stye?

Question

ok heres the situation, I am in college and I am 3 weeks into the semester. for the first week, I attended like 3 of my classes, then proceded to skip a weeks worth of classes, then I talked to my teachers on email and told them I was sick and coming back, so I came back for like 3 more classes, the main reason I miss class if because I always sleep in and miss my bus, then it just discourages me from going to school, half the time my parents are home so I have to to go to school, I just end up going to the computer lab because I dont want to go to class, I fear I am going to get called out by my trachers and my fellow classmates. I havent attended class in a week and I recently emailed my teachers again( I am a shut-in, I dont want to go talk to them) i feel like I cant attend class because i do not know what we are doing what assignments are due, I already missed a test and my grade are not good as it is.

I cant sleep at night thinking about these problems (I am a tad depressed) which is why I end up sleeping in, I really absolutly hate school, I hate the program i'm in, I know its not right for me I want to drop out but my parents paid for it so I cant, my mind is not made for school, I just want to work and get out into the world, also I am poor as hell so I cant even go to the casino to waste my time (yes, i'm addicted). I am losing my mind, and I feel life my life is just spirralling out of control, I dont enjoy anything anymore, I cant stop thinking about school. It's a very visious cycle I feel I cannot stop it, i am in trouble and need to fix something, and fast. Has anyone been in a similar situation that just keeps repeating itself. Any advice for me what I should do??

Answer 1

It is clear to me that you have the illness, Depression. Whether you are depressed because you're not doing well in school or whether you're not doing well in school because you're depressed, is hard to know. For sure, you need to deal with the depression.

Also, if you are addicted to casino gambling, that is a contributing factor in your depression. In order to have hope for the future we need to be able to control ourselves in order to be able to make the adjustments in life to improve our life.

How did you do in high school? Did you go to classes and study the text books and still have poor grades? If so, maybe college is not for you. When I say this I have to add that my best friend was a classmate of mine in grade school and high school. He was not good at class work but he had tremendous desire and perseverance.

He went to a community college and got an associates degree, but that was not enough to accomplish his career goals. He went to a 4 year college part time while working full time and finally got his degree.

I had some similar problems as you when I started college. When I graduated from high school I had no idea what I wanted to do to make a living. There was the draft at that time so I enlisted in the Air Force to avoid being drafted into the Army.

My mother was a single mother and had no money. I worked for a year after getting out of the Air Force to save some money then enrolled in an engineering program at the university where I lived. I did well in high school but after being out of school for 5 years I had forgotten much of what I learned in high school in math and science.

I went to school every day and studied from the time I got home until I went to bed. I couldn't sleep at all because of my anxiety and in 2 weeks I lost 20 pounds because I couldn't eat either.
I quit college then because it was clear to me I was not succeeding and could not continue with not being able to eat or sleep.

I went to work and got better. Later I started taking 1 class at a time, learned some study skills from books and eventually got an associates degree in Registered Nursing ( hardly what I would have imagined my career would be in!).

My best wishes for you. I would encourage you to seek some source of free counseling. Also, you need to go to Gamblers Annonymous. That is free and the 12 step program that you would do would help you in the other areas of your life also.

If you believe in God, please ask Him for help. Not only for help in general but also for specific things. He has been the greatest source of help in my life and I would not be alive if it weren't for His help.

Answer 2

You will stay in a never-ending cycle if you don't change what you're doing. First of all, you need to change your sleeping habits. Stress reduction might help you a great deal initially. Maybe talking to your school counselor might be of use. If that doesn't help, there are several non-addictive sleep aids that you could take to help you sleep at night for a few weeks until you have established a good sleeping pattern. I think you will find that after getting a few good night's sleep on these and going to class that your grades will increase and your stress level will decrease dramatically. Sleep well, go to class, and most of your problems with stress will go away. If it makes you feel any better, college isn't like high school. Students skip college classes far more often than hight school ones, and I highly doubt any of the students are going to call you on it. The most that might happen is that a caring professor might ask what has been going on, but they usually will ask this in private, if at all. Everything will be fine.

Answer 3

I was in college a few times over the years. One, be assured that 99% of the time your teacher and classmates will not call you on it. No teacher will call your house and ask why aren't you there. It's college, it is totally separate from high school where going to school was required by a state entity. Your not "required" to go to college, it is a personal choice. You have to decide if you would rather just get a job (It seems like you would be happier that way.)

P.S. - As for your parents. You can just go and be honest with them, they can't "force" you to go to school either, even if they paid for it. If you hate what your doing, sit with them and tell them that!!

Answer 4

That's what law school was like for me. Stick with it, go to class, force yourself to learn and pass and you'll be happier for the experience.