Im 25 and am in love with my girl, we haved been dating for 3 years now, and i wanted to get married to her, i finished University next year, do you think its better i finish Uni before i get married? or will i cope?
2007-01-29 07:49:39 · 8 answers · asked by frankie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would wait - do you really want the pressure of an upcoming marriage alongside your studies? You only have a year left set the date for then so that you can concentrate on each one fully
2007-01-29 07:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely wait. I know this may sound patronising, but you are so, so young.
I got married when I was 24, straight out of uni. Just got divorced recently after 15 years, the last 5 of which were, frankly, awful. We all change so much, especially between 25 and, say, 32.
Why do you need to get married ? It won't make you love eachother any more! And it closes down your options so early in your life.... If you are still together in 3 years time, then is the time to consider marriage.
Sorry to seem so negative but I just would have done it differently if I had my time over again....
2007-01-29 07:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is the rush? If you both love each other I'm sure marriage can wait a little a bit longer until you have got University and have settled in a job. What you could do is get engaged. For now concentrate on finishing your studies then you can think about building a life together. All the best!
2007-01-29 08:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by whitney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother got married at the end of his second year and his wife helped supprt him fincially as she had a reasonable job. After he left uni they both worked for a year and then my sister-in-law went back to college while he supported her for a year. they both worked for about 5 years then my brother changed careers which meant a huge drop in salary for 3 years during which time she took up the financial slack then when his salary rose he supprted her for three years while she got her degree. I could go on but i hope you get the drift. it is all about teamwork and both giving as well as taking. If you two do the same you will be fine - if you take more than you give you will not be. I hope I've made sense and it works for you. good luck.
2007-01-29 08:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been living with my girlfriend for 2years, and I start Uni this year, on a 3-4 year course. We have decided to leave getting married till my course is done and I have a job.
Weddings are not cheap especially if you want to do it right, and give her that really special day(fairytale wedding)
I think you had better discuss it with your proposed spouse...
2007-01-29 08:04:30 · answer #5 · answered by badassbiker1974 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are living together now, there will be very little difference. The cost of the wedding for a student could be a problem. Unless...you go to a wedding chapel, judge, love boat captain, etc. If you aren't currently living together, forget it. Wait.
2007-01-29 08:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by kielbasa7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
carry out istikhaara, first and maximum perfect. And did you recognize of any straightforward Muslims on your area? if so, get them to assign a wali to you (a good one). And tell them your criteria (a good Muslim brother, someone who's in a position to grant for you and a destiny relatives, no little ones for the subsequent 4 years) - only verify you're careful. go with a wali who will act like a shielding father ought to to his daughter so as that he would not only hand you off to any random human being - yet quite, he will do heritage checks on the guy and verify that each and anyone is properly and good. you should also do your human being heritage checks someway. don't be too shy to refer to the imaam (btw, your wali would not must be an imaam, it will be any straightforward brother) - that is your destiny you're speaking about! As for it being a good concept to get married in college, it relies upon on the guy and the situations. Allaahu 'Alam regardless of the actuality that. carry out istikhaara with no need your heart lean in the route of one determination or the different. once you carry out istikhaara, bypass alongside with the alternative that you're feeling comfy with and/or regardless of determination looks a lot a lot less stressful (in view that Allaah would positioned hindrances for you interior the route of one selection as an indication to no longer bypass alongside with that determination). Allaah will preparation guide you to do what's precise. :)
2016-10-16 06:36:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Chap. You know no one can decide for you. Not even you. So why bother. Decide when you can. Any decision now will not work.
2007-01-29 08:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋