Wives: Would you rather have...?

Question

a) your husband make more money, but he's gone many evenings and some weekend time.

b) your husband makes less money, but job hours are low and you get to spend every night with him and all weekend.

Answer 1

Well,coming from a man's perspective,,( B ) I would rather be there as 'much' time as possible with my amazing loving, communicative, well grounded and calm and happy wife/kids.
If the bills were causing a financial burden on our lives or causing strife in the marriage, then I/she would make adjustment accordingly. I'm single and Income/financial security is more and more important for single women when it come to them sizing me up,(under the proverbial microscope) if they have the "high maintenance gene" then I would have to be a big money earner to even attract them,and keep them happy. I live in a big city and is very hard to meet a woman will settle for a 'B' type of guy!!
The pressure to make more and more is even increasing. The % of divorces ending from Money issues is HUGE!..should I just keep rambling on........?

Answer 2

My husband makes more money, is gone for 10 days at a time. He's doing what needs to be done to provide for his family and you know what? I love him so muh for it. We are not on welfare, don't scrape pennies together for a loaf of bread every month, I get to go back to school... and then we can both make enough to provide a comfortable home for our kids. We still talk, get time together, and it's actually working out for us. We'll have plenty of time to spend together in a couple of years.... we believe it is worth the sacrifice. To each his own. Ask yourselves, can you trust each other? Are you willing to have less than you could have? Can you survive the fustration of knowing you could have more money and struggle less? Are you really so impatient that you want it all now now now?

Answer 3

Both options have good and bad points - there's a good chance I'd end up bitter in both instances! My husband has a great job with money & benefits, so he's home in the evenings BUT he's working towards his Masters Degree. That means he's upstairs in his office until late, so I don't actually see him much. The good thing is when I do want to talk to him or smooch on him, I just go upstairs!

Answer 4

I would absolutely say (B).I've been with my husband for two years and he was an over the road truck driver and I hardly never seen him.Maybe once or twice in a month,but he brought home alot of money.Now he works locally where we live.He doesn't make as much,but it is well worth it because I get to see him every night and at one point I didn't think it would ever come down to this,but it did and both of us are so much happier.Hope this helps.

Answer 5

B. I can be alone by myself. I work, too, so there's no need for him to work himself to death. I'd rather have more him and less money. Money is just a tool, after all, not the most important thing. No one ever says, on their death bed "I wish I'd worked more". They usually regret that they didn't make time for the really important things in life-like their family.

Answer 6

I pick B. My husband has had over-the-road jobs where he made great money but was never home. It made us both miserable and depressed. It's no fun making a lot of money if you can't be home to enjoy it with the ones you love.

Answer 7

My wife says b, she'd rather have more time with me, than more money.

I used to drive truck over the road, and now I work locally, I drive ready mix truck, and I am able to get plenty of hours in, but still am home every night and get to spend alot of quality time with my wife and kids. And I know they like it alot better that way too.

Answer 8

I already have both of those but in the negative. My husband is away most weekends and some evenings and he makes less money.
My advise to all is if you have boys never let them near motorbikes and if you do then never encourage them to race motocross and supercross. My husband and I had never spent any time appart till my boys got involved in this sport.

And to the person who gave me a thumbs down, I will pass your thoughts on to my son whos passion it is to race supercross for a living. Am sure that he will give up his dream and stop racing so that his mum can get a thumbs up for her life!

Answer 9

Definitley B..... You can always find ways to make money with over time and such but you cannot always spend time with your husband and have him with you when you need him.... I would much rather have my husband home and not be lonely and bored without him.

Answer 10

Ive been in both situations with my hubby, and trust me...MONEY is not the important thing. He makes less money now, but our marriage is back on track.