How do you cope with wanting another child and your husband dosent? My child is 2 1/2?

Question

and I want another child so badly!!!! Everyone around me is pregnant with their second and third children and there is no convincing my husband what do I do?

I am not comparing myself to other people just the more people around me that are having more children I feel sad around them and resentful to my husband and I work and take care of my house. I dont want my child to grow up alone

Answer 1

then you and your husband need to make a decision. there is no compromising on the decision when it comes to children. and the one child that you two already have maybe more than he can handle. besides...why are you comparing yourself to everyone else around you? you two either need to have another child, not have another child or split up so you can find another man to have that second child wtih. but a decision needs to be made so that neither of you hold any ill will against the other. and don't oops him into having another child. that would not be fair to him.

Answer 2

That is really something you should have talked about before you got married. If he doesn't want another child getting pregnant is not a good idea. You could destroy your marriage. So what is more important having a happy family or a broken one?

Just because everyone else is doing it doesn't mean you should too.

Answer 3

CFAlways is right, there is no compromising when it comes to having kids(or more kids). I would have thought you two would have discussed this prior to marriage. But, given the time, maybe not.

Sit and talk about it. He obviously has a reason he doesn't want more children. Do you know what the reason is?

Give it some time, and see what happens. If he is dead set against it, you are not going to change his mind. And, "allowing" yourself to get pregnant will likely end your marriage.

Answer 4

that's a hard one to answer, but i would try to sit him down, and weigh the pros and cons. if money isn't a problem and the relationship is strong, try to voice how badly you want this and how great it is already having 1 child, and how that child would benefit from having a sibling. if not, maybe you can both work out a compromise, maybe within a year or 3 years, something where you both feel comfortable. hope things all work out, good luck!.

Answer 5

Does your husband have siblings of his own? Do they have a good relationship? If so, try convincing him to imagine growing up without them.

Also, explain that siblings are important for kids to have. If something should ever happen to you and your husband, at least your children would always have each other.

Answer 6

Unfortunately you cannot MAKE him want another child if he doesnt want another. Im not sure of his reasons for not wanting another child and I can understand how resentful you feel wanting another so badly.
Do you know the reasons he doesnt want another child like stress on him, economic etc?

Answer 7

I know how you feel. But at lest you have a baby, ALL OF MY FRIEND and FAMILY and then everyone around me is either pregnant or just had a baby... I want a family and my husband doesn't... he claims that just thinking about it stresses him out... which I think is bull ****.

Adopt!

Answer 8

Get a puppy and a job. You''ll see then how much cost to bring home the bacon for four.
You already have one baby that is hardly off diapers.
Stop comparing yourself to others and living your life for what everybody else is doing...

Answer 9

Get out and get a job....only children grow up just fine.