It's so frustrating.
2007-01-29 07:24:29 · 31 answers · asked by Fla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What is your idea of "true love"?
Love takes work, and understanding, and faith in each other, and trust, and companionship, and friendship.
The Buddhists feel there are four aspects to true love, and I agree. Here they are:
Love is one of the most confusing of feelings. What some people call “love” may be possessiveness, or simple desire, or some other lesser emotion.
According to Buddhism, there are four elements of true love. Read what this wise teacher has to say, and find out if what you feel is true love, here:
Here are the four aspects of true love.
1. Loving-kindness. Loving-kindness is not only the desire to make someone happy, to bring joy to a beloved person, it is the ability to bring joy and happiness to the person you love, because even if your intention is to love this person, your love might make him or her suffer. To be able to give happiness and joy, you must practice deep looking toward the person you love. Because if you do not understand this person, you cannot love properly.
2. Compassion. This is not only the desire to ease the pain of another person, but the ability to do so. You must practice deep looking in order to gain a good understanding of the nature of the suffering of this person, in order to be able to help him or her to change.
3. Joy If there is no joy in love, it is not true love. If you are suffering all the time, if you cry all the time, and if you make the person you love cry, this is not really love--it is even the opposite. If there is no joy in your love, you can be sure that it is not true love.
4. Freedom. In true love, you attain freedom. When you love, you bring freedom to the person you love. If the opposite is true, it is not true love. You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free, not only outside but also inside. “Dear one, do you have enough space in your heart and all around you?” This is an intelligent question for testing whether your love is something real.
In my opinion, that is true love.
A relationship is not defined by the issues it has, but by how the people in the relationship work through them together.
2007-01-29 07:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is very true. This is why I say, love sometimes is not enough. I had a relationship for very long time, and we both loved each other but couldn't work things out. And after years of going back and forth, we both knew it wasn't working, but the love was there! To tell you the truth I haven't seen this person for years and I chose not to think about him, because I still feel like I have love for him. It's very strange and I hope u can work things out but sometimes love is not enough. good luck
2007-01-29 15:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by Lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of a love/hate relationship?
This is when there isn't a true understanding, trust and respect between two ppl.
Such relationships are destructive.
True love only comes with time and that's once a solid foundation is established.
Learn to recognize these and also that which makes up true love.
Good luck...
2007-01-29 15:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
True Love is not the answer. You have to have comunnication in a relationship. If u are not able to talk openly about your problems and try to work them out with each other it makes it hard to fix a relationship.
2007-01-29 15:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by Pam B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who said that? maybe you have never been truly in love? If you love somebody enough. You will work out the issues with LOVE, UNDERSTANDING and SELFLESSNESS. But if you continue to think this love is some magic potion that can just wish every thing away then your living in a fantasy world. When you truly love someone. You'll go to the ends of the earth for them.
2007-01-29 15:34:30 · answer #5 · answered by SecretFriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love not build relationship, love comes after good relationship already built.
Love can't fix broken relationship. Love need help from time. Time will help love if the lover knows what love is.
2007-01-29 15:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by oohay_member_directory 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because true love means acceptance of all things and acceptance of all things would mean no problems. True love would conquer all things if both people in the relationship exercised true love. Is it true love that finds the fault in someone just so it can be forgiven?
2007-01-29 15:29:10 · answer #7 · answered by crazy_no_unique_yes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a long term relationship with the opposite gender not only is true love key but friendship definetly needs to be there. If you can't be friends, well how are you going to be able to tolerate being with the person when you are in your golden years?
2007-01-29 15:27:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest problem with relationships, is that people have a predetermined ideal of what their true love is like. When they fall in love, they fall in love with an ideal version of that person in their mind. When the real person fails to meet that ideal, they feel betrayed, and then they want to make that person be like the ideal one, never realizing that is not possible. All this often happens subconsciously without them ever realizing why the relationships keep failing.
You have to consciously accept that the ideal person does not exist, and understand that the flaws in all of us are what make us unique. When you can fall in love with a real person, instead of an ideal version, it lasts so much longer.
Finally, when you can find someone who you want to make happy instead of wanting them to make you happy, and its mutual, then you know are in true love.
2007-01-29 15:36:10 · answer #9 · answered by Sean E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because no relationship is without problems ever. unless your dating your clone, you will have problems in a marriage or relationship in general simply because it is two very differtent people trying to make it work as "one". and thats hard. true love can fix some things...it will make you wanna stay, work through stuff and love the person even when your mad or hurt or angry....true love doesn't give up. if you loved the person you are with you will stay and work through things because you love them, want to be with them and see the bigger picture.
2007-01-29 15:29:04 · answer #10 · answered by lola 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋