married people or people in a serious relationship.....?

Question

do you have someone in your past that you are still curious about??
not necessarily someone that you want to BE with, just that one person that you will always wonder about, ya know??

how do you deal with it?? do you just not think about them or do you secretly wonder about them and sometimes call to see how they are???

just curious!!! thanks!

Answer 1

ALL THE TIME!

I'm a very nostalgic person and early in my relationship with my husband we had issues with me contacting my exes, just to see how they were....

Don't do it. Let them go, it's almost better to just wonder about them, than find out what they're actually doing. (It's usually pretty dull)

In time it becomes easier to resist the urge to check up, but there's no harm in wondering...just send them good thoughts when you think of them.

Answer 2

I was in a seriuos relationship with a person, then we split. I was told to sh-t, or get off the pot. Well, I felt I wanted to keep my bachelorhood as long as I could. In time we both married different people. We are still close friends. I avoid too much contact. Because to be honest, the more I see her, The more I WANT to see her. So, if you want my advise. I would just think about them, and not act on those feelings. Love is a many splendid thing???

Answer 3

ok im with ya.
Ive been with N for 3 years, hes my first serious relationship. There are 2 boys from my past whom I will NEVER forget. One was my first crush. Very serious deal, we were best friends for 5 years but when we finally decided to give it a go at 14 yrs old, we couldnt handle it. We stopped talking shortly after that. I will always wonder where he is, what hes doing, how his life turned out, if hes happy. I sometimes have dreams just out of the blue that really make me sad and miss him sometimes but I try to force myself not to think of him. Sometimes I wanna find his number but I dont, Im in a relationship with a wonderful man whom I couldnt never betray, finding this other guys number would be playing with fire. The second was the one I lost my virginity to. I was 16, we werent even bf/gf, he was just a guy I had met that I trusted and felt safe with. I didnt want to do it with a guy from school who would just go tell everyone im a slut after. We kept our friendship after he moved from that town, we talked on email, even met up on vacation once, he was living where I had travelled. I still talk to him once in a while on the computer, he has a gf and his own life. I'd like to keep in touch with him forever, Id like to meet his kids once day. My man doesnt like me thinking about or talking to these two guys. I think Im not doing anything wrong, Im only human. I think every woman has someone from their past that they cant let go. Thats what our hearts are for, to hold ppl close and keep them there to touch our lives.

Answer 4

yes,,,my former boyfriend that i almost married...i think about him all the time and wonder if he is now married (i am)--we live so far apart now, i have virtually no way to find out how he is doing. I tried to find info on the internet and did find something about him that suggests he is now married and i know he bought a big 6 bedroom house from the real estate records.--he was definately my true love--i wish him all the best in the world, only wish i would have made a different decision back then................The funny thing is that even though you might think often of an old love, you might never, ever even enter their mind--and you have no way of knowing!

Answer 5

I wondered many times about my ex. He was my first love and after we broke up and I started going out with another guy, he disappered. Left school and i never heard of him again. I wouldn't want to track him down, but I have wondered about him. I say let it be. Let it go. If your life is great without that person then they are not in your life for a reason. Don't duel on the past, live for the future.

Answer 6

I do have someone in my past that I think of often. I just go on. I did wonder about them for a long time. I just recently got in touch with them again, just to see how he was. I'm married and my husband is fine with it because, he trusts me.

Answer 7

Everyone has that person and wonder what could of been. I am happily married to my wife and sometimes wonder how things would of been with an old crush but I don't ever call or anything just wonder.

Answer 8

Yea i still do, i still wonder how he's doing, well the sad thing is he died, so ya know I'm trying my best to find it in myself to move on and learn from it i guess. Its hard. i love my boyfriend i wouldn't trade him for the world. but i still think about the other guy time to time wondering if there was ever gonna be something. but everything happens for a reason and i still wonder & miss him.

i think we all have someone who we think about time to time.

Answer 9

Oh yes. I generally just accept those feelings as yet another irritant that I have to live with. Even though it drives me crazy sometimes, I just try to ignore it. In the end, there are more pros to staying with the decent long-term relationship than jeopardizing it in pursuit of some unrealistic pipe-dream of youth.

Answer 10

Hey Joey,

I have been married for the past 20 years to a wonderful, intelligent, resourceful, sexy woman. There were many women who existed in my life before her who i am still friends with and contact on a regular basis. Some of them have become very good friends of my wife and some have been exclusive to me. I have no qualms with allowing my wife to contact anyone she wants. There is enough trust, tolerance, understanding and support in our marriage to allow us to express ourselves in any constructive and positive manner we wish to. There is no reason why any marriage should prevent their spouse to continue healthy relationships with any of their old flames, friends or otherwise.