Ok my moms a gynacologist and wants to do check ups with me. She already did at my house...ya...and ok taking your clothes off infront of your mom isn't my cup of tea...then letting her touch around my vagina was akward. Then she asked me uncomfortable questions i do not perfer to tell y mother...AM i the only one that thinks this is weird or should i tell her to stop??
2007-01-29 07:13:16 · 29 answers · asked by Abi*Luvs*Trevis 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well normally it would be against the law. Since she is your mother she shouldn't be doing any mediacal exams on you. If you went to the ER and had an injury and she was an ER doc she would not be allowed to work on you. Tell her you want your own doctor and you aren't comfortable with her touching you in that manner or asking you private questions. Tell her if she needs to save money to save it on something else besides your medical exams.
2007-01-29 07:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're the only one who can really answer this for yourself: reason being: some families can be that close, some prefer a little comfortable distance and privacy with the people they've got to eat dinner with everynight. I know how you feel. I had to ask my husband to stop checking my every little scrape and flaw for a while when we started dating and he was in med school. Now a couple of years later, I am thankful he can check out my issues a-z, but I still go to the doctor, for a-z...you know, the doctor who I don't have to eat dinner with.
Tell her to please consider your need for privacy if that is what you need.
2007-01-29 07:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest tell her you would prefer to see someone else that it makes you really uncomfy and that this way if you were to answer a question and she didnt like the response she cant get mad at you plus with another doctor you have patient-doctor confidentialty which means she cant pry to see if you have sex unless you tell her as mom and daughter so i mean the worst that can happen is what you hurt her feelings but what do you prefer getting felt on by dr.mom or saying uh gross for me i would like to not do that stuff with you sorry. she cant do anything about it just speak up good luck
2007-01-29 07:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by sexy b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are uncomfortable about your mom giving you a physical then you need to tell her that and go to another doctor. She is you mother and all but she should still respect you decision that you don't want her to be poking around your business like that.
2007-01-29 07:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by Kris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never have to be in an uncomfortable situation like that. It would be entirely different if you were comfortable and happy w/ the situation. It may or may not hurt her feelings, but you do need to tell her. She doesn't have the right to impose that on you.
2007-01-29 07:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by Kari 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with littleluvkitty, Physicians do not practice on their own families. What your mother is doing could be considered molestation and child abuse. If you're not sexually active, you do not need an internal examination. If you are, tell her you will find your own OB/GYN. And by all means, contact your local Police Dept. and Dept of Social Services and report her. Good luck.
2007-01-29 07:24:32 · answer #6 · answered by curiousnktown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that your mother would suspect that this might feel awkward for you. I am VERY surprized that it doesn't feel awkward for HER. I am a nurse, and in my experience, physicians NEVER treat their own family members. It is like an unwritten rule. I think you should REFUSE to allow any more exams of this nature by ANY physician who makes you uncomfortable. Remember, it is YOUR body.
2007-01-29 07:31:20 · answer #7 · answered by Sabrina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes definately tell her to stop. I would feel so uncomfortable I can't even imagine it and feel so so sorry for you. Just let her know if you need to get all that done, you'd feel more comfortable having your own doctor who you aren't emotionally attached to.
2007-01-29 09:36:35 · answer #8 · answered by iheartcali92 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, is a little weird - mom should know better - is a conflict of interest thing. Get yourself your own gynecologist and showing mom that you're going to regular appointments should be adequate.
2007-01-29 07:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by chicchick 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i would drather have my mom check cause i dont know but docters just creep me out ! lol. but if u dont feel the same way i do i would just tell your mom that u feel akward because she is your mom she will most likely under stand but if she doesnt just explain your self and see how it goes
2007-01-29 08:50:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋