I had to watch my kid go to prison today. What would you feel if youn had to do that?

Question

A little background. He made a big mistake and didn't answer for himself. I advised him to do so but he didn't want to face the consequences. He didn't realize till today that they will follow you and it's better to answer than to run.
I love my boy but at the same time I cannot ignore his responsibility.
He has to go through this and I WILL be standing at the other side to meet him.
He knows I love him, but he also knows I expect him to be a man. He stepped up today and for that I'm proud and saddened.

Answer 1

DISAPPOINTMENT OF HIM FOR PUTTING HIMSELF THERE.But I would still try my best to be there for him.

Answer 2

First of all, was the punishment just? Did they go to prison over some stupid state law?

If it were over something he really did do, It would probably make me feel like I failed. And I would have to ask myself "did I raise this child like a child, or like a baboon?" Did you let your child get away with stuff you shouldn't have? Did you give timeouts when something more should have been done?

Personally, I think that's why we need to spank our children. If you didn't spank you may want to ask yourself which is more painful? Seeing your child go to prison for 10 years or seeing your child cry for 10 min because they got spanked?

If you find in your mind you did most things correctly, this may be a case of where your child has to learn a lesson and it's not for you to teach anymore. And sometimes things happen once your children are grown you can't control... but you still wish they didn't have to go through it.

Answer 3

I would feel that I let my kid down. I should have been more
of a parent, by being there and involving myself in his daily
activities and if I couldn't certainly my spouse should have
helped me the times I wasn't able to be there. I should
have been a good example, displaying that I am a happy
human being with good moral character and wouldn't ever
stoop to that sort of thing that would land me in prison that
he did. I would also feel that I had to make him feel that I
expected the same out of him and that by not following his
parents guidelines he has yet failed us and failed himself.

Answer 4

If I had to watch my kid go to prison today I'd feel very sad. I'd be disappointed at myself because I'd feel like I wasn't a good parent. But it may not be all my fault. I may have done everything I could to be a good and encouraging, loving, supportive parent.

Answer 5

I have come close to experiencing that with my daughter a couple of years ago.Luckily , it didn't come to that.I knew she was wrong for doing the things she did, but I loved her so much , the thought of her being somewhere like that made me ill.She's doing ALOT better now.I hate that you had to go through that.My prayers are with you and I hope he/she gets out soon and comes out learning a lesson and makes their life better.God Bless!

Answer 6

It must be so hard and heartbreaking for you. Like, you cant protect him when you have done that for your entire life... But you have to keep telling yourself that it is for the best... If your child keeps getting bailed out, rescued, and saved - when will they learn that they can't just do things without dealing with consequences. It must be so hard, but it could change the way that your child is leading his/her life for the better

Answer 7

Depending on how old the kid is.....

I would feel like I had raised a loser. If a minor, I would feel like I was going to give my kid a serious lesson when they got out if they were still living with me.

How do YOU feel?

Answer 8

It depends on what they had done. They are your flesh and blood and you will always love them, but dependent on what thy had done, maybe prison is what they needed to straighten themselves out. Or if not, then I would campaign for them if they have recieved an injustice. However, sometimes people have to go to prison to pay their debt to someone they have wronged.

Answer 9

I would want to kick his behind to the curb, how dare he disrespect my Family name but on the other hand I would give him a hug and tell him to do what he can to survive.

Answer 10

I would feel very disappointed with myself, but they need to take full responsibility for their actions! Do the crime, do the time!

Answer 11

I would feel very sad. But I would also know that is part of taking responsibility for his/her actions. But I would be very, very sad until his release.