He makes me feel like i can never do anything right and i'm an inconveince, but i still love him more than anything. What can i do to make him see that he's really hurting me?
2007-01-29 06:57:11 · 22 answers · asked by COLEY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't you dare marry him. Think where you will be in 20 years of that treatment!!
Learn to love yourself, then one day in the future you can have a healthy relationship with a decent person.
You will NEVER change him.
2007-01-29 07:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by Captain Jack 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. You shouldn't be with a man who makes you feel that way. He isn't really considered a man. Most men do it because it makes them feel better about themselves. Communication is everything and sit down with him and tell him how you feel. He can either respect how you feel or still treat you like shyt. Men never changed as do women. I would have left him the moment that he started making me feel this way. People aren't put in relationships to make them feel like the can never do anything right and that they are an inconveince. You still love him? That's the bad thing about relationships. Obviously you are thinking about leaving him or you wouldn't have said that. He's hurting you so bad and if he can't realize that he is, then he isn't worth you time. Good luck!
2007-01-29 07:04:51 · answer #2 · answered by ~M*a*N*d*Y~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts, but you are better than that, do not marry that man. He may seem to you that he is the only guy for you or you can't do any better but you can. Way much better, you are obviously a very devoted person, and you do deserve a person who is going to respect you and give that back to you. I would tell him he needs to change, and how you feel. Sometimes guys don't realize they are being mean, If he doesn't change in a month then you need to prove him wrong and do something right by leaving him. Also if your his fiancee you are not an inconvenience, you are his future wife he should respect that, and treat you as such. Like everyone said, do you really want to be married to that guy who makes you feel terrible 20 years from now because its just going to get worse. Remember you do deserve better and you should get treated as such. Best wishes
2007-01-29 07:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by amazonkittycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is playing on your insecurities, which is not a good thing in a relationship. Being an inconvience to someone is not what I would want to feel in a healthy relationship. You need to think this over if this is who you want to marry. Advise wise, I would approach him and let him know that certain things he says or is doing to you are very hurtful to you, and if he doesn't understand, then you have to make the choice of weather or not to stay in that type of relationship.
2007-01-29 07:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by K_Seeks4Answers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably indifferent to your feelings at this point. My guess is that you've attempted to communicate the same information to him prior to posting your question on this site. So, my advice is to be prepared to break the engagement if he doesn't 'come around to your way of thinking.' You can't spend a lifetime trying to get him to be sensitive. He may not be capable of being the supportive husband you seek. It doesn't make him a bad person, just a bad choice for a mate. Good Luck
2007-01-29 07:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call off the wedding, read your first line and take a moment for it to sink in. You should never have to ask this question. I am sure you have many good qualities and deserve to be treated with respect. Start with respecting yourself and except nothing less from others. You are on the road to a sad life if you don't change your attitude. Good Luck
2007-01-29 07:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by noddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get rid of him! What's the point on maintaining a relationship with someone who keeps putting you down and doesn't want you to feel good about yourself? You deserve to be treated with respect and since your fiance can't respect you, then you need to let him go and move on with your life! Its going to be difficult, but don't bother being involved in relationship when you're not feeling happy and nothing good came out of it!
2007-01-29 07:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. His behavior is his own. Work on yourself and your own interests. A fiance should make you feel GOOD about yourself NOT bad.... unless you have low self esteem and are doing this all to yourself? Hard to say without more info...
2007-01-29 07:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by Jay Jay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously does NOT love you! If you marry him, he will continue to make you miserable....he has issues that YOU can't help with. You should dump him before it's too late, and find a man who makes you feel GOOD!
2007-01-29 07:02:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he is doing this to u and u r not happy with that and if that does not work that u can do better with someone who will care for u and treat u like a queen.
2007-01-29 07:06:00 · answer #10 · answered by mdsp35 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋